Is it normal that i don't "get" people?

Maybe if you knew just how abnormal it is NOT to feel this way then you wouldn't have as much of a problem with it. Whenever you hear someone in public making small talk, thats just someone trying to avoid that feeling, and in reality they're no different than you, just pretending to be.

I have the same thing. I would say it's not normal – in the sense that almost all people genuinely love chatting with good friends, or partners, in particular. And plenty of extroverts like small talk for its own sake.

If you just find small talk boring, you are not alone. Probably not even in the minority.
As far as I can tell, your problem (if it is that at all) is lack of common ground or mutual interests; in school or work, you probably have some task you can converse over. Whereas, if you're talking with someone in a social situation, you have to ask about them, their opinions and/or their lives specifically. Personally, I find this boring, even though I probably should have some level of empathy, even for strangers. I don't know about you, but I don't think you have to be self-interested in order to be disinterested in other people.

About close friends.
I have "friends" at school but I feel no need or want to share details of my life with them, or to know what's happening with them. I'm guessing your having a boyfriend requires a level of emotional intimacy, but obviously I can't be sure.

Like someone else said, mild Aspergers is a possibility, (one which I myself am getting tested for shortly, which is why I bring it up). But without other signs it seems disrespectful to those who do have it, to claim it is simply social apathy/difficulty. I'd read up on it, and take several different quizzes.
Even that though, is accepted as relatively normal.

good post Ldizzy, im quiet too and small talk is the devil to me but i try and you can try too

I'm a naturally talkative person (most people say I talk too much). So I don't exactly understand how anyone could have a hard time making small talk. But my sister is a lot like you. If you tend to get frustrated easily with people then you probably have the same issue as my sister. She doesn't talk much because she thinks she's better than everyone else and that talking to them isn't worth her time. This may or may not be how you feel, but I hope I helped!

Look up Asperger's Syndrome. It's a fairly common form of Autism, about 1/100 people have it (I think). It would still be fairly extreme to just say you have AS, however. You might just be a little awkward, socially.

Hmm... it sound's pretty normal to me. Sometime's I feel like I'm not a people person, and then I'm like, "Wait a minute, I can do this.". And when I listen to what other people are talking about, sometime's I don't even get what the big hype is about. And this is probably going to sound really backward, but I feel like when I have a deep conversation with a person vs. "small talk", I feel much more at ease, and comfortable, because it feel's almost as though I'm really taking a dive into who they really are inside. So I feel like we have a connection. Whereas having a basic conversation like, "Hey, what's up?" I feel awkward. But I think in order to get to that comfort zone, you need to approach it slowly through small talk first.

Small talk can be really hard though. And I hate those awkward silences too. Sometime's if it get's really awkward I throw in a line like, "Ha, geez... I wish I had more to talk about." or "Sorry, this conversation might feel so one sided, I just can't think of anything interesting that's going on in my life right now...blah,blah,blah.". I don't really know how to explain it, but It kind of help's me to, I guess, let down that front if you know what I mean. Like, just giving them hint's or being upfront with them like, "Hey listen, I'm not that great in the conversation department, so please bear with me.[giggle to help break up the stuffiness of the room.]" Anyway, good luck. I'm sorry for how long this was.