Is it normal that i don't feel sad that my boyfriend is overseas?

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My boyfriend recently left for china for 2 weeks on a trip with friends. I do miss him but I feel slightly happy that he isn't around. Not because I dislike time spent together but I feel that being alone now makes me feel that I am remembering the person who i used to be before i dated him. He did not change me but everyone around me is telling me that I should miss him when he's gone and i should be texting him to ask him how his trip is everyday. But instead, I am feeling that with him not around I have breathing space. The relationship is good which is why i am feeling guilty not for enjoying being alone. Is this normal?

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  • GingaNinja
    11 years ago

    Every relationship needs a break sometimes it must be just the thrill of being able to do whatever you like when you like to.You must miss him at some stage of the day like getting into to bed with no-one beside you, if not then you know he may not be "the one"

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    • forever_anon
      11 years ago

      I agree with this answer. It's OK to enjoy your freedom, but if you do not miss him at some point (if only for a few minutes), then that's probably not a good sign.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I'm married and even I enjoy my alone time.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    I think you are healthy even if you might not be what some people consider normal. Just out of curiosity is the everyone around you that you refer to mostly comprised of other women. Maybe they're jealous of your independence. There is no should in feeling you emotions. You feel what you feel. I would be suspicious of anyone who tells you what you "should feel." Just be authentic to yourself and if the relationship doesn't work out because you weren't needy and doting enough then it wasn't the right one for you. Misery loves company and miserable codependent women can be the worst influence.

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  • Short&2thepoint
    11 years ago

    You need time to miss him, and be able to appreciate when he's there. Other-wise, one would begin to take the other for granted, and their presence wouldn't be as desired.

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  • StinkyPoo
    11 years ago

    UH-OH -- The SPACE thing..."but, don't you like having me around"? haha...don't tell him.

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  • 0404
    11 years ago

    enjoy the space but do text him from time to time and yes its normal :)

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  • D.J
    11 years ago

    this time u spending we call 'space' or quality time'.do all the works that u like,refresh ur mood,meet some older friends and enjoy.make surprise him after two weeks.

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