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I am 5 months pregnant and since it was an unplanned pregnancy I am not as excited as I was with my first child. I am going to have a boy this time around but I don't feel the love I think I should be feeling. Is this normal? My hubby thinks I'm a b**ch for not "feeling happy."
Ask hubby not to judge you or just think you should be prewired to automatically accept this pregnancy. Rather, tell him that he should listen and respect you. And there may be things he can do to help you accept what is a huge event, and was unplanned by either. That way you can get your head and feelings around the pregnancy. If he's useless that way, find someone close who will give you the space to come to your own terms on this.
you dont hear about it every day but i no you cant help the way you feel, i think when you have your baby boy and see him in your arms youll feel the love. .... good luck!
I don't know if that is normal or not, but you should learn how to love him. No matter what happened, it won't change the fact that you're the mother of that child. Every person has the rights to be loved, and thats one thing you must not take away from him. Even if you say that it was not planned, you hold responsibility to that child. There are some people who can't even give birth to children, so be thankful that you can and love him with your all.
You're not a bitch, your husband is an asshole for trying to tell you how you should be feeling.
It's normal. A fetus is basically a parasite and if you weren't planning to have a baby it's natural not to love it yet. My wife didn't start to think of our son as a person until he was born, before then she talked about him like he was some sort of alien invading her body which kind of scared me but that changed once he was born and she actually held him.
If you still don't love your son after he's born you should get counselling then, but you almost certainly will love him even if it doesn't feel like you will now.
I am 4.5mths gone, being kicked all night, and still feel little to no connection with this baby despite wanting kids. I'm intrigued by the scans and was anxious about when quickening would start, but all I feel is the physical kick...
Your husband is the bitch for belittling your feelings and treating you so poorly. If he's not willing to accept how you feel after showing him how many other women feel the same way, I would suggest talking to a friend or family member who will be open to your point of view until he learns -- if the worries/problem with Husband gets worse, do seek professional counselling. I started counselling just before finding out I was pregnant, and since my therapist has kids she is very understanding and never judges any negative views I may have.
How can you love someone you don't know? All the mommy-love stuff seems like BS to me. You have to learn to love someone. You haven't even spent any time with this person yet.
That's weird since you are already a mother, I think you would have that motherly love automatically this time, well I hope for your baby that you will love him like he deserves
This is actually a very common thing. I used to be a nurse in OB/GYN, and we saw this a lot. We also learned about it in training. It's normal for a pregnant woman to sometimes feel disappointed, detached, disinterested and/or regretful about her pregnancy, even if it was planned. Our culture likes to paint pregnancy and motherhood as all fluffy rainbows and butterflies, but it's not always like that and that's okay. Stress and the usual hormonal changes can contribute to these feelings. Usually you will start to feel more attached to the child as you get into the later stages of pregnancy or once the baby is born. If what you feel is gets worse/intensifies, or if it doesn't change either way, make sure to talk to your doctor about it. It could be depression, especially if you've had trouble with post-partum depression or baby blues in the past. Good luck to you. :)
Maybe your jus overwhelmed and stressed. Things will fall into place after the baby is born. Jus try to surround urself into positive thoughts and everything will work out for the best. Good luck!!!!
When you have your baby you will fall in love at first glance i hope. but if you don't then see a doctor and be safe and keep your baby safe please Hope Everything works out ok.
That is very normal, maybe when your baby is born you'll feel differently
Maybe it still doesn't seem "real" yet. Hopefully in time you will find you love your unborn child. All the best to you...
I think i heard of a mental condition where mothers try to kill their new borns, i know your situation is not as intense as this, but i would see a psychiatrist if i were you.