Is it normal that i don't feel empathy for people with "issues"?

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What pisses me off is when people come to me and cry about having depression, being bipolar, borderline, or whatever mental issue they might have. It annoys me even further when they lose their jobs, have fights with friends, drop school or do any other thing to make their lives worse.

I don't like to compare my problems with the problems of others, but I had a fair share of mental illnesses. I didn't have enough money to continue with therapy or to buy pills, so I had to work really hard on my own to go on. I am not completely cured yet, but I am at least functional.

What truly makes me angry is the fact that most people don't work hard enough to solve their issues. In particular, I hate it when people with issues start drinking or taking recreational drugs. If they really wanted to get better, they wouldn't do that. These people just seem to be hedonists, they want to be cured by an angel or something... it is so annoying...

So, does anyone feel the same?

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago | pl

    I hate being bipolar, it's awesome.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Not very accurate, but good joke anyway :D

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    • Nephew7
      10 years ago

      Lolz

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  • q25t
    10 years ago

    I think it's a bit of perspective here. Depression is usually accompanied by a feeling that things won't get better in many cases, isn't it? If so, it makes perfect sense that someone coming out of depression could lack understanding as to how those in depression are feeling.

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    • GoraIntoDesiGals
      10 years ago

      This. When you are depressed you simply don't have the energy to fight back and work hard. Hard work is in fact yet another aggression that makes you want to run for the hills and die. It's even worse if you are socially anxious and work involves dealing with workaholic doers and other bullies.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      It is the exact opposite, I understand perfectly how they feel. Only someone that has been there can truly know how it feels.

      What frustrates me is the fact that these people usually don't make any effort at all to get better. They just want a fairy to give them a magical pill that will solve all their problems.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Sounds like you're at a different place in your recovery than these people who have the "issues" and with whom you can't relate. Maybe these people haven't reached their bottom yet? I do understand your frustration with those who abuse drugs and alcohol. I've been working on myself for the last four years and I know I've got a long way to go so basically when I see that someone is a drunk or a junkie or some other kind of flake I put my running shoes on and hit the road. All the best you.

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  • mulanmalice
    10 years ago

    You sound like a douche. Just because you've gotten through all your shit, doesn't mean that everyone else can do the same. Iggnant fuck .

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Do you think you're better than them or something? Everyone learns, grows and changes at their own pace and in their own ways. Just because they aren't getting better as efficiently as you doesn't make them lesser people. A bipolar person with a criminal record will have a harder time than a bipolar person with a clean record. A depressed person with a f*d up family will have a harder time than a depressed person with at least one caring sibling who can make all the difference. Some people have a stronger will than others. Basically, if you want to have any part in helping them you need to stop comparing yourself to them. When they are ready to change they will do what they need to do.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I have issues, I don't feel empathy for people with empathy.

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  • Kuri0sitat
    10 years ago

    You're being pretty self centered. No one's experience is identical to yours. You're assuming everyone should be just like you.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    Most of the time those issues can't be solved. No I don't understand your point of view.

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  • streetmach
    10 years ago

    Usually what we don't like about other people reminds us of what don't like about ourselves.

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  • loopoo
    10 years ago

    I agree, in a way. My friend does this to herself, she has actually just texted me to leave her alone because she has 'issues' yet it will only make things worse between us and for her. I myself at time's have felt suicidal, but I've really tried, and succeeded in making my life better, its not easy, but it's worth it.

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  • jimrichy
    10 years ago

    Your lack of sympathy for people with mental illness gives the impression you are a LONG way from functioning normally, yourself. Ironic.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I used to feel worried about them all the time... but life is simply too short to be like that.

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    Like I care.

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