Is it normal that i don't feel as sorry for kids as i do for adults?

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I've always been this way. I never understood why people only feel sorry when something bad happens to kids, but they don't care what happens to adults. Adults are humans with feelings too. Adults are sisters, brothers, they have parents. They are aunts and uncles, so they matter to someone. They feel pain and anguish.

I know that people say that children are "innocent" and that they are so young, but I just for some reason feel more sorry for adults. Is it normal?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Adults have choices. Adults can put themselves into positions and/or places where they should expect what happens to them. For instance, they can choose to live in a Muslin country as Catholics, knowing they are hated by all around them. Their children do not get that choice; they must live as and where the parents do. Therefor it makes sense that one would feel more empathy for the "innocent" victim, rather than one who chose the path that led them all to harm.

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    • pantyrose
      9 years ago

      That doesn't make sense, because what if something that WASN'T THEIR CHOICE happens to them? Such as a burglar breaking into the adults home and killing them. Is that a "choice?" Use logic.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Don't be rude. My statement makes perfect sense within the framework it encompasses. That you choose another scenario, does not invalidate mine.
        Another way to see it is that adults have had a chance to live some. They may have loved, succeeded or failed at some things and generally had at least 21 years of experiences. Children have not had the time or experiences, so it is logical to mourn them for what they have missed.

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        • pantyrose
          9 years ago

          But adults still have the rest of their lives to live. What makes them less important? They feel pain. Children don't necessarily feel more pain or fear. How would you feel if one of your adult relatives, your mother or father, sister or brother, were murdered ruthlessly? They did nothing wrong, but they were killed for no reason?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    "I never understood why people only feel sorry when something bad happens to kids, but they don't care what happens to adults. Adults are humans with feelings too."

    You hit the nail on the head, and I agree entirely.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    It's because as adults we have a responsibility to take care of kids. Kids are dependent on us since they are new to this world.

    Adults have been around and should know better when getting into a shitty situation.

    Kids do not get the options we have due to being dependent. For example if a mother chooses to get with an abusive douchebag she should know better to leave, but if she chooses to stay and the guy hurts her kids, it is just as much her fault for knowingly staying.

    I would feel bad for her kids, but not her because as an adult is was her job to defend her children.

    I think you should think more about this.

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    • pantyrose
      9 years ago

      What if the adult don't put themselves in bad situations? What if they're doing all the right things, but something unfortunate happens to them, something that isn't their fault? Answer that.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Obviously bad things happen to everybody but it is our responsibility to try to make them happen as less as possible. While I agree some things are out of our control, adults are more free than children because they have more life experience. Therefore it is the adults responsibility to protect future generations.

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  • Energy
    9 years ago

    I'm like that. Never felt sorry for kids, but for adults, yes.

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    • daydreamer394
      9 years ago

      What's wrong with you?

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      • Energy
        9 years ago

        Absolutely nothing I'm afraid. By the way I know who you are ;) it's all good. I love personal fans <3

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        • daydreamer394
          9 years ago

          I know you too, well done ;D I'm on the nightrain.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Its tough. When a child dies an mostly unformed personality and mind are lost. Someone won't be losing someone they depend on. Physically I mean. When an adult dies or something someone couldbe losing their ffather or mother, which affects them more on morethan an emotional level. On the same card though, that immature mind never got the chance to become what it could have. When a child is lost, so may the cure for cancer. Its more a "what that child could have beeen" for me anyways...

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