Is it normal that i don't feel accepted by anyone?

Hi, I'm a bisexual stoner musician. I do not feel accepted by anyone. I'm an outcast, to the outcasts. Every local group that says they accept anyone (the metalheads, the stoners, the gamers, etc) have all disassociated with me. It's very hard with so much rejection to not think there's something wrong with me. Is this normal, or is there really somethinng wrong with me?

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  • Maybe instead of trying to befriend whole groups try making individual friends. You also might be meeting people who are over judgemental.

    I've noticed with "groups" of friends there is often someone who talks shit and all the other people listen to them. It's the heard mentality that is bad.

    I seem to be pretty popular and I don't really have a friend "group" Many of my friends do not hang out together and some even hate each other. I hang out with people I pick and choose instead of having a set group where everyone knows everyone. It's much better to do it that way.

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  • Shrunk

    "Bisexual stoner musician" is like, 80% of the people I went to school with.. I don't see how you would have trouble, maybe you could try defining yourself in other ways than with drugs and sexuality

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  • Couman

    It could be that you're super obnoxious and don't know it.

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  • Anime7

    Are you sure they disassociated with you? Or is it possible that you simply didn't keep in contact with these people?

    Honestly though what kind of person are you? I mean would you befriend someone like yourself?

    Please don't think I'm being mean, I'm simply asking because I know people who've felt rejected before but that's because they didn't even put any effort to get to know any members of a group. They sort just went into groups expecting to be instantly loved because they either outwardly expressed their interests, via clothing. Or because they felt like these people would have the same music taste as them. The thing about people is that, rarely, at least in my experience, do I see people just giving a hug to an outsider who doesn't really express an interest in joining the group beyond a "hi." You have to kind of be aware that you do have to put in some effort to get to know people.

    Alternatively if you have tried to get to know people and participate in group outings, then honestly, screw them. If anything they're the ones not putting in the effort to get to know you. You'll find someone or group of people like yourselves, everyone always does. Just keep putting yourself out there. I know that may sound disheartening, but waiting around for people to like you isn't something that I imagine works. Rejection sucks, but that's a part of life, what determines where you go is how you let it affect you. The best way I've seen for others to overcome it is simply realizing that it's not a big deal and that they won't let it define them. They'll still keep going because they have faith that it will pay off because more often than not, you shoot enough darts on a board chances are that one of them will hit the center mark.

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  • pizzabrowniesushi

    stop hanging out with losers. they don't deserve your time man.

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  • AwkwardLemonJuice

    Welcome to planet earth....... I feel disconnected with most people.. Feel it's just so, that any ordinary conversation is never going to work... But i do make people laugh alot, perhaps you should crack alot of jokes?... I don't know man....

    What exactly is it that you do that you cant connect with anyone?

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  • RoseIsabella

    In what ways have these people rejected and or dissociated themselves from you?

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    • Most of the time they will stop returning my calls, block me on facebook, etc.
      Most of the time I have to ask someone else who knows them what happened, and that person confirm that the other person doesn't want to be around me anymore. This has happened like 20 times.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Have you ever asked them why or asked a mutual friend why? It sounds like you're doing things to turn them off that you're not even aware that you're doing. You could be really Codependent. Also I wonder if you might gave some neurological disorder.

        Here's a link to the website for Codependents Anonymous, see if any of the characteristics fit you <a href="http://www.coda.org/" rel="nofollow">http://www.coda.org/</a>
        <a href="http://www.coda.org/tools4recovery/Patterns%202011.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.coda.org/tools4recovery/Patterns%202...</a>
        <a href="http://www.coda.org/tools4recovery/Patterns2-2011.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.coda.org/tools4recovery/Patterns2-20...</a>

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  • PossumMom

    A lot of these feelings are self-generated. Not to say they aren't real, of course they are and very normal. Therapy helps.

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