Is it normal that i don't enjoy physical contact?

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I would like to start things off by saying that I am twenty-one, and a female. I have had two relationships up until this point in my life. Both were with other girls, and both were quite short-lived. And, I often wonder if it was because I was not forth-coming enough. I am not a very 'touchy-feely' kind of person, and I'd rather keep my hands to myself. I don't mind holding my girlfriend/boyfriend's hand. That's perfectly okay.. But, hugging and kissing is another matter altogether.

Both of my girlfriends have been three years younger than me. I don't know if that's a coincidence or not. With both, they were quite into physical contact, and wanted to kiss within the first week or so of being together. I found with my second girlfriend, she texted me constantly, asking for when we'd share our first kiss, or when we'd be able to 'make-out'. I just felt very pressured.

I have never felt 'love' for another person, other than family members. And, I wonder.. Why haven't I felt this love? And, am I just a cold fish for not wanting to jump my girlfriend/boyfriend's bones every minute, of every day? My first girlfriend said 'I love you' within the first month of us being together, and I would always say it back, but, I didn't actually mean it.. Is this normal?

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    Aw. I would offer you a hug, but you'd probably slap me :p

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    • SmallFrry
      12 years ago

      lol , funny (:

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    maybe you just haven't met the right person yet. and there is no reason to tell someone you love them within a month of dating. she should've kept that shit to herself.

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  • derp
    12 years ago

    It's not really 'normal' as I feel most people like physical contact and can fall in love easily, but I do think you just haven't fallen in love yet. Hopefully when you meet the right person- male or female- you will want to get physical. It's hard to express love without touching, kissing, hugging, etc. If you have no love to express, that's probably why you don't want to do these things.

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  • sapincher
    12 years ago

    Research Schizoid Personality Disorder (SPD). See a counselor.

    EDIT: For the ease of future readers, this is from the Wiki.

    DSM IV describes SPD as

    A. A pervasive pattern of detachment from social relationships and a restricted range of expression of emotions in interpersonal settings, beginning by early adulthood (age eighteen or older) and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:
    -Neither desires nor enjoys close relationships, including being part of a family
    -Almost always chooses solitary activities
    -Has little, if any, interest in having sexual experiences with another person
    -Takes pleasure in few, if any, activities
    -Lacks close friends or confidants other than first-degree relatives
    -Appears indifferent to the praise or criticism of others
    -Shows emotional coldness, detachment, or flattened affect

    B. Does not occur exclusively during the course of schizophrenia, a mood disorder with psychotic features, another psychotic disorder, or a pervasive developmental disorder and is not due to the direct physiological effects of a general medical condition.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    maybe you don't like girls.

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