Is it normal that i don't care that i was rape/molested?

It bothers me that u were moled, people shouldnt burrow into others

It's possible that you simply have a different way of coping or are good at letting go of things in general. Does this tend to occur with other areas of your life too when stressful things happen?

I said that for a while. I was molested by an older boy when I was in maybe 2nd grade, for a long time I didn't really remember it happened. Not like it was repressed or anything, it just somehow ended up tucked away in a little used corner of my memory. Then a conversation when I was in high school brought it up and for a long time I didn't really think it bothered me. It had been so long ago anyway, I'd kind of just stopped thinking about it after it happened so I figured I'd be over it.

But looking back now I was never really okay after that. I started having anger problems, started getting anxious and upset about minor things, that anxiety has persisted and is still a bit of an annoyance to me today. (There have been other incidents since then too, which didn't help) Now that I know a little better I can't believe I didn't see how it was effecting me sooner than I did. I had a pretty good home life (glossing over me and my mothers differences of opinion, we'd get into it sometimes but ultimately my parents are pretty awesome) and should have realised there was some trigger for the problems I had back then. It took a lot of analyzing my history to make some of those connections, but now at 23 I feel like the healing process is pretty well on it's way.

I am sorry that happened to you, if you do ever need to talk to anyone you can feel free to shoot me a message or something. :)

I was raped when I was 11; it even lasted for a few years. It turned my life upside down on all levels: psychologically, morally, socially, rationally, physically, etc. I've had therapy for a very long time and it still left a scar.
The thing is, I guess, you're either in denial or you are affected but you really cannot see it. There is no way, scientifically speaking, for you not to be affected by such an event. The slightest incidents, especially the ones that happened we were young, leave a trace and changes happen due to these incidents. Sometimes the changes are obvious and sometimes they're not. The changes are there though.
Being in denial is not something mundane as most people make it seem. It is a very serious psychological disorder. One cannot know if s/he is in denial. There is no way, if you are in denial about it, to know that you are in denial. I was in denial for almost a decade; I thought that the rape did not effect me, that I've had my share of crying, being all melodramatic, took my revenge from the man who raped me and that it simply passed. Nevertheless, when I went to rehab (for heroin addiction), spending 2 years in an indoor rehab, 24/7 therapy and then another 2 years in the out-patient continuation program, it wasn't until then that I finally understood that I was in denial. I saw why and what the justifications were and everything. It was a long and painful process, but eventually I really did get over it.
So my opinion is that you are most probably in denial too. Ask someone you really trust, someone who could step outside of the box and be sincerely objective, how s/he views you; it definitely affected you, one way or another. It might be something that you might've not related to the rape. For example, your sexual fantasy or a fetish. It could be emotionally, for instance, you are too cold or don't know how to express your feelings. It could be a million thing.
I might be wrong, but then again I might be right. I hope my comment would help a little, or perhaps answer some questions.
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Well, on one hand, it is good that you got over it(or never had to). On the other hand, In my personal opinion, you shouldn't feel indifferent because you were taken advantage of. You should have more self-worth. Please keep in mind, I'm not labeling or saying that a person can be too sexually active. A women or a man can sleep with whoever they want, but it should be on their terms.

I think it's great that you are over it, but I don't think you should be indifferent towards it. If you enjoy sex, great! but you should also have the choice not to and be at an age to make that mature decision.

What's interesting is that I was once talking to a girl who felt the same about herself. What was odd is that by the end of her story, I couldn't help but cry and yet she seemed totally indifferent about it. She was telling -ME!- "awww everything is ok!" lol.

You was so young, and the mind adjust to this type of thing over time, and you have had much time to put it behind you! But it will always be there, for it has changed you forever and had a effect on making you who you are today! I am sure you would be a different person without these life exposures, but no one can change that now. You just have to make the best of your life, much like most of us! Good luck with your choices

Yea it's probably cause you was young & some people just don't dwell on the past & you must be one of them. Sorry you was raped & molested though!

That's no fun I hand out commemorative magnets when I rape people.

@Avant-Garde I see what you did there, with your name. I love Rent too and I hope you actually do get better.

Seems to have taken the greatest toll on your spelling.

Yea thats true it is something that you have to live with but as long as you don't dwell on it & feel sorry for yourself then you'll be fine

SORRY for you :( i was sexually abused too, by my own brother. i know it's embarassing but this site makes me open it all up. i got that when i was 8-9-10-11, as i remember. sexually and phisicly abused. now i can think that my bro has been absolutely abnormal. he phisicly abused me when he didnt need anything for me. like when he got back from school, he kicked my shinbone/tibia, oftenly grabbed my hair too and it was really painful. when he needed me, he called me softly to his room and started abusing me. i wasn't dare enough to tell anyone. i was a lil kid and didnt know what to do. but now i really grew up and i'm not afraid of anything that disturbs me, i've been starting to think that how if i tell what i have been through to someone or everyone about my shitty brother, to destroy his life, if he fucks up with me again. i won't he think that i'm a chicken. i want to make him think that dont ever fuck up with me or u die. bcoz what i have been through forms me to act like "if i dont protect myself, who will?"

so yes its normal to act like u didnt care bcoz u were a child. i did that too, as time goes on, it makes me stronger than before.

We all deal with things differently.

Sounds pretty unusual to me, but if you genuinely aren't perturbed by what you went through that hopefully indicates it hasn't had a significant negative impact upon you.

Different people respond to situations differently. What can destroy one may leave just a scratch on another. Better to be the one who is just scratched :)

I can understand what you mean. We all deal differently.

It's not normal. It is odd how there are so many different ways for the mind to react to trauma. I would like to give you a more detailed answer but I can't.

Life goes on, what is the point of moping about something that happened in the past.

Some traumas are like that.