Is it normal that i don't care about looks?

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When I'm looking for a girl or guy (I'm pansexual) the first and only thing I look at is attitude. Several times my friends have comment on my past girlfriends, saying "dude, what do you see in her" "she must be easy" or "I would throw that catch back". It really irks me that they only care about looks. Recently I have given up on guys, because at my age all of them are like "I'm horny. Lets fuck. Goodbye!" I have been asked to go to girls choice dances by some of the "hottest" girls in school, and the first thing i think is "you are a b*tch to 90% of the school."

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    Attitude turns me on a lot more than looks do, but I think maybe we're in the minority. Looks are all very well in a painting or a vase but that's because they don't have to *do* anything apart from look a certain way. People have to do things, they have to interact, and looks are often a distraction to what's actually happening. Some of the sexiest people I know are those who, at some point, have not been considered the best-looking people.

    If you can get looks and attitude, great, but if it's just one then attitude every time. Why would anyone want to be with someone where the only thing that's pleasant is looking at them, and everything else is painful?

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    • ccjigsaw
      11 years ago

      People would pick the person in the last sentance of your statement for.. Sex. That's why lol Most people these days aren't looking for something real. I don't think I would date the person NeuroNeptunian described mainly because if the person can't atleast take care of themselves (Which I think hugely reflects of their personality) then likely they're not #1 going to be a clean easy person to live with #2 gives me an idea that they have a lazy personality. and #3 Of coarse, if they smell, they would be hard to handle. Just poppin in my 2 cents.

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        Ahh, true enough. Neuro did pick an extreme example but even with that example, it could be things the person can't control. I'd certainly at least give them a chance and go on a date.

        Where've you been hiding, by the way? I haven't seen you on the site for ages!

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        • ccjigsaw
          11 years ago

          I got hired at the hospital here!! Very excited, but I'm on call, so I either work a whole bunch, or not at all. I've had a lull lately :P Nice to know I'm missed!! lol Having a life is hard

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          • dappled
            11 years ago

            Ooh, congratulations on the job! And yeah, you're one of the people who started on IIN at the same time as me. It's like we're in the same grade at school. :P

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            • ccjigsaw
              11 years ago

              That's one way to think of it! I always assumed you were here long before me, but now that I scroll over our names, we really did start around the same time. I guess we're like IIN seniors then?

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      Serious question, would you feel that way if the woman in question was a perpetually sweaty, morbidly obese woman who was going bald and smelled utterly repulsive?

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        It's an extreme example (in the same vein as me asking whether you'd date the man who raped and killed a few of your friends), but I will answer honestly.

        Sweatiness doesn't bother me. It's only water. Morbid obesity doesn't bother me. I had a few dates with a woman who weighed thirty stones (420 pounds). Smell would bother me. I don't mind odd, but utterly repulsive sounds like it would turn my stomach and make things difficult. And then there's going bald. Of the four, this bothers me the most. I have no problem with bald women. A fellow IINer shaved her hair off and looked great. But going bald? Hmm. When I think of a woman's appearance, hair is usually the first thing I think of. I'd be lying if I said it was unimportant. It's nothing like as important as attitude or personality, but that doesn't mean it's of no importance at all.

        If the person you described could deal with the smell (assuming it's just poor hygiene) and found a way of minimising or disguising her baldness *and* she had a personality that I found attractive, then I'd at least agree to a date.

        When I start having feelings for someone, their attractiveness kind of rapidly escalates anyway. I don't know whether it's an oxytocin thing or what but my friends have said they didn't find some of my ex-girlfriends attractive and, at first, I thought they must be joking becaus - to me - I think I've dated some stunningly attractive women.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          Well then, you sir, have my respect.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    Ditto. I described one of my exes to my boyfriend and he makes fun of me for dating him. I make fun of him for dating a miserly bitch, who honestly isn't as bad looking as i expressed to him. He thought i had higher standards of looks and i thought he had higher standards of personality.

    Honestly, only a couple guys i've been with would be considered good looking by many. I can't help falling for nerdy guys with a personality that sets them apart from three crowd, rather than looks.

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    • ccjigsaw
      11 years ago

      I had the same thing! My boyfriend said he thought less of me for dating a guy who wasn't so good looking. But I dated him cause I thought he was a nice guy, looks didn't matter. It's crazy how people think so differently from one another

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