Is it normal that i don't believe what a guy tells me?

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Basically, long story short. I live in the UK and although I've always been against long distant Internet relationships, I've recently fallen head over heels with a guy from America, and he has for me also. I am leaving in 2 days to meet him, and he's so happy and excited about it. I, on the other hand am so nervous. I am not a HUGE girl but I'm not thin either. He has seen many photos of me and told me I'm beautiful and he loves me NO MATTER WHAT and he can't wait until I get there. So why do I feel like it's all bullshit? I believe that I will go there and he will hate me for how I look (although seeing 100's of photos) and that he'll, in a sense, "dump me". Why can't I get it into my head that I'm not this hideous beast that I have seemed to convince myself that I am? I get men ALL the time in night clubs, etc, making moves on me, but yet, think "Why are these guys talking to me" Can't they not see that I'm disgusting?" What is wrong with me? Is this NORMAL?

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  • roxco
    13 years ago

    You probably have a mental disorder called body dysmorphic disorder research on it, I did and I think I have it too.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    You need to have more confidence. If you exhibit that confidence, us males find that incredibly sexy. If all else fails and he is not attracted to you, don't make it weird. Either way you will leave this with a lover or a friend if you play your cards right.

    The fact that other men in real life find you attractive should reflect that you're not hideous. Have you sent this man full body shots of you? Full body shots in normal settings like with friends and not just posed in a mirror? The more types of poses you have, the more of a realistic view he gets of you. But, unfortunately, nothing can replace the essence of being face-to-face with someone-- not even a webcam.

    Good luck and I hope everything turns out well. Just have confidence.

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  • LunaLaFortuna
    12 years ago

    If you show insecurities about yourself his attraction for you will disappear and that will be it. You will get a self-fulfilling prophesy. Don't blame the guy for dumping you after sleeping with you if you act insecure and self-concious because guys, like girls, once they fall in love with someone it really doesn't matter what they look like, like small imperfections and stuff - nobody is perfect, anyway.

    I know because that's how it is for me. At first this guy wasn't even my type, he was hairy for starters and not a washboard stomach type like I like, obviously and his dress sense was cheesy, i didn't even like his accent but.... the guy turned out to be a real gentleman, very funny, very intelligent and I just don't know what's happened - I fell in love completely. To me, everything in him seems gorgeous now, even his wide waste line and ill-fitting trousers - I just don't care. He's mine!!! He's gorgeous to me in every way and I can't get enough of him. And he makes me feel confident about myself because he accepts me as I am also. That's what real love is all about.

    Enjoy!

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  • mrs_anon
    13 years ago

    Hey everyone, thanks for all your comments..

    MercedesBenz yes he has seen full body, non posing photos of me, my Facebook is full of photos, but I tend to think "what if my photos aren't showing just how ugly I really am?"

    Roxco - I had never heard of that before.. I did a quick online test, 10 questions, and ticked "yes" to 9 out of those 10 questions.. So I will look into that for sure.. Thank you..

    _DD_ - I will watch it now, thanks.. And we haven't webcamed, as neither have one, BUT, he has taken photos of himself while we've been on the phone and sent them, while still on the phone. But, I will be careful about this. I will be meeting him at the airport, and if he isn't who he is supposed to be, I will have no hesitation in sleeping at the airport until there's a return flight back to the UK

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  • _DD_
    13 years ago

    Google search "TalHotBlond" (yes it's spelled correctly) watch that documentary b4 u decide to meet this guy. That being said, I'm not saying don't meet this guy, just make sure he is who he says he is. Don't rely on pictures and phone conversations. Webcams are cheap enough that anyone can get one. If he can't then there's other issues causing that which might make u reconsider.

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