Is it normal that i don’t want to date anyone that’s not a virgin?

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Is it normal that I only want to date a virgin and not have sex with her? I’m a 19 year old straight man, and this is something I’ve wondered about for years. Lots of girls find me attractive (for what ever reason :p) like I guess I might be attractive and I have an extremely good job for my age but I’m still very shy and I don’t have the perfect model body. But no matter how attractive and willing they are I’ve never had the urge to actually take any of them to bed. Like I’ve never been that interested in sex and I’d rather just cuddle someone as platonic friends instead of actually doing anything sexual. And although I’ve had a girlfriend I had to break it off after a month because I couldn’t ever get over the fact she wasn’t a virgin. I don’t know if it was the idea of her being intimate with someone else like that or what but it always just constantly bothered me. Is there something wrong with that?

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  • JustMolly
    5 years ago

    you sound like a control freak.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I was told by my gf that I wasn’t controlling enough xD maybe she had a weird fetish

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    Clearly, what you describe is not "normal" in the sense that the vast majority of nineteen year-old guys are desperate for sex, and you aren't.

    If you're comfortable with who you are - no matter how different it might be to the norm - then that's fine. Some people just aren't interested in sex.

    If you're not comfortable with how you feel about sex and women, and if you suspect that you're missing out on an important part of life, then that's a problem.

    From what you say, it sounds like you feel any woman who has ever had sex is dirty, damaged, and contaminated. That suggests some very sex-negative ideas have been put in your head by someone, and maybe that's why you find the idea of having sex unappealing. There's a difference between having a low or non-existent sex drive, and actually finding the whole idea of sex revolting. If you do actively find the thought of sex disgusting, then I suggest you seek out someone who might be able to help you sort out your feelings and their underlying causes.

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    • lordofopinions
      5 years ago

      Become a priest.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        5 years ago

        Which religion lmao?

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        • lordofopinions
          5 years ago

          Catholic?

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            5 years ago

            Aight bouta become a priest esketitttt

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I don’t find sex revolting just I’ve never had the urge to actually have sex. It’s taken a back seat to essentially everything in my life and I’ve been wondering why.

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