Is it normal that i do this with new friends?

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Every time I've made new friends, I always go through this mental process that takes place over a few months.

During the first few weeks of getting to know an aquaintance, I learn all the good qualities of said person until after about 2 or 3 months of knowing them, they irritate me with all their faults to the point where I can't stand them. But after that period has passed on, I guess I become more accepting of the person as as I end up knowing their faults but not letting it get on my nerves, thus letting the friendship to further develop.

This is all happens unconciously and I want to know if anyone one else does this to.

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  • What'sMyName?
    12 years ago

    I think you mean sub-consciously. It would be hard to make a friend while you're unconscious.

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    • ComTlancy
      12 years ago

      That would be that one. Though unconcious friends do have their benefits.

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  • Atomsk1
    12 years ago

    Sounds pretty normal. I dont know that id break it down to the specific months or anything, but its normal for relationships and friendships to have different stages of learning and acceptance. Ive had some friends for decades and sometimes i love hanging out with them, and sometimes they constantly get on my nerves. Its just human nature, and the natural cycling of moods.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It happens to me all the time too. Sometimes I get sick of them to the point where I try to avoid them. Its not really a good thing but i think its normal.

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  • KatieLiz
    12 years ago

    I always try to learn their bad points first. If you learn only peoples good points first, you're bound to be disappointed

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    I've never actually analyzed it but, yes, I am the same. I think its to do with understanding them as a whole, once this happens you can make more sense of things.

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  • niniozo
    12 years ago

    When i make a close friend i hang out with them. but when i recently made a friend she called me one of her best friends, i freaked out and avoided her. then i realised i was being silly, got over it and now she really is my best friend. also i freaked out over minor things like physical things like a spot or something, and im not perfect myself. i do all of your story, but i get over myself, and dont let it affect my friendships. trust me, take my advice, accept them. they could become your best friend.

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