Is it normal that i do not feel empathy for other human beings?

Hey guys, the question part of this is just a formality. I know that that is very not normal, I would just like a few other opinions. Let me give you a little background info. I don't feel many emotions at all. Every so often I will feel one of the base emotions- the very basic emotions such as fear, jealousy, excitement, and anger. Unfortunately I very rarely, as in once a month or so do I get to experience some of the so-called, higher emotions, such as joy, pity, mercy, and love. And even rarer still do I ever find someone I can empathize with. I can be one of the most charming, seemingly honest and open people I know, and in the blink of an eye, drop the act and become the cold, calculating predator I actually am. I lie with my words, I lie with my body language, and I lie with my smile. Not surprisingly, I have had to hide this all my life, and that is how I've done it. I know what emotions look like from the outside, and I've sat in front of my mirror getting a certain look right before. Grief is the hardest one. I'll never understand why people take so much time to get over their emotions when they know it won't change a thing, but i digress... I have always assumed I'm just weird until I took a psychology class at my college, UNC Chapel Hill, and apparently I am almost a stereotypical psychopath. I say almost, because the very essence of psychopathy, an inability to empathize ever, isn't really present in me. There are exactly 5 people in the world that I would hurt when they did. The rest of you I could literally share a beer with, work with, seduce, hangout with, and then without a hesitation, strap you down to a table and laugh as I slowly tortured the life out of you. Not that I am going to do any of that, for one reason its not very smart to do that, and the other is that I have chosen to live up to certain standards, why? I have no idea, maybe some sick way to challenge myself, but the point is I would not feel anything emotionally about it. But these five people, three I have known a long time, and two I have only just met in the past few years of my life, I would die if anything happened to. Not literally, but it does feel as if my world revolves around them. I assume since I make very little real emotional connections, the few I do make are bound to mean more to me than what I assume normal people feel. If anyone ever touched on of my 'chosen few' yo could call them, then I would be burying them in my woods (teeth broken out and dissolved in hydrofluoric acid and fingerprints burnt off of course). Its not right how much I feel for these people. But anyways, the fact that I am able to care about more than myself is in direct conflict with the psychopathic norm. And the other reason I'm not totally convinced its that is that I have no reason I am like this. Normally psychopaths were abused as children, but they loved me and never hurt me like that. Anyways, please leave comments with thoughts

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Comments ( 15 )
  • randomjelly

    Too much rambling. I couldn't conjure up enough sympathy to finish.

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  • ccp5127

    All of you people who commented are assholes. It's not a troll post and who cares if his grammar is incorrect. Also, who cares if the post is so long! This guy is just trying to get answers to a problem that he is dealing with and no comment yet has been remotely helpful. If you're going to even bother commenting, give useful advice! Whether he is emulating psychopathy or he really is struggling with mental illness, it is affecting him enough that he cared to get others' opinions about it. So many people hide this problem and never get better; at least he is putting it out there and looking for answers. Unfortunately, the only answer I can provide is seeking intensive therapy and medication. I've seen this work with psycho/sociopaths who actually WANT to get better, so if this guy falls into that category, there is his answer. The rest of YOU ought to have some empathy for HIM because this is truly an awful illness to be dealing with.

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  • 800imawesome

    May be a sociopath ( but then again, three fourths of the kids at my school are sociopaths, kleptomaniacs, sadists p.s. thats what I am lol, a couple are masochists, and a ton are phsycopathic)

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  • mike666

    Join army... Frontline, kill everybody in sight and get paid for it... It sounds like your sort of thing... 666

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  • mazgan

    just so you know its mutual, nobody gives a shit about anyone, cuz humans are selfish bastards by nature, the rest is just an illusion

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  • stone_love

    You're not a psychopath, get over it. You're just a bit of a dick. All's well!

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  • Zone

    I almost thought I had written it my self. I'm in the same situation. However, I would never risk getting jailed or do something to risk my well being, not for anyone. But I don't think much of it. I enjoy life. My goal in life is getting lots of knowledge and become rich or famous.

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  • koinzell

    wow. that's really how i feel. you don't how much curious i am after reading this... thanks for sharing

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  • To me this is normal. So many people actualy do think like this and just dont want to admit it but people like me and you share it online where no one we know can see how we really think about others. I would be lying if I said I dont feel the same as you so I will just say that I am the same.

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  • emilydoll

    How old are you. It has do with my opinion.

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  • Nakkiel

    I'm fairly sure this is a troll post, but very large wall of text. If its not, a lack of empathy doesn't make you a nutcase that wants to strap down and kill your friends, you watch too many movies and are trying to emulate what you think a sociopath is.

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  • SweetSherry

    Hey man what the fuck do you think you'll get many responses with that long fucking question you whining about not having empathy boo hoo I hope when you're looking for a shoulder to cry on you'll get a fuck off away from me response you robot !!

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    • MahBoi24

      Pro-tip: Punctuate your fucking sentences. Idiot.

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      • SweetSherry

        LOL !!!

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  • Schuyler

    A tad long ....... Hhmm .. No, not normal to feel ok with torture , but at least its only in your mind

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