Is it normal that i do more for my bff than she does for me?

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Well one day i wanted my friend to come help me clean my room because it was so dirty. After 30 minutes of kind of cleaning she said she wanted to play outside so i say okay and the moment she went outside i went to see what she is doing outside and i say that she went straight to her house. I got so mad and sad because she lied to me so i knocked on her door and asked why she went to her house when she said she is going to play outside and she said there is nothing to do and i already said that before she went outside and she didn't listen. After that i got so sad and realized that i do EVERYTHING for her and she does almost nothing for me and i only wanted her just to help me clean my room. Is this normal? And can you give me tips about this?

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  • darnitjoan
    12 years ago

    clean your own god damn room. I'd go home too.

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  • BfingIToucher
    12 years ago

    Does anyone else think it was weird that the poster was asking her friend to help her clean her room? Did the friend help make the mess? When I was a kid, I never thought to ask a bff to do that with me. That was my job, and I wouldn't expect my friend to find it fun.

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    • Tisgranum
      12 years ago

      I agree with that but some people just don't see the weirdness of it.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Well the fact that she lied to you and just went outside and left without telling you is so rude!!! That is not a true friend. If she didn't want to do it she could have at least been honest.

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  • nanimeow
    12 years ago

    I would start to do less for her.

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    • Tisgranum
      12 years ago

      That sounds like the smarter approach to me, in a way. Why give what you aren't ready to part with?

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  • cassandravl
    12 years ago

    If you are giving 60% and she's giving 40% thats complexly normal but more than that is not a healthy friendship. You should get as much as you give. :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    If you truly love someone, you just want good for them with nothing in return. But of course, we are human and our self-respect, ego, and pride sometimes get in the way.

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  • Memehoney
    12 years ago

    I don't like it either but I do more for my bf than he does for me also. Then I realized I have it a lot easier than he does and also money comes to me a lot easier also. I just would like for him to buy me things.

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    Expectation is the mother of deception. You shouldn't do stuff for people just to expect them to do stuff for you. Don't give what you aren't ready to part with.

    There's always finding other friends but it's nice to get along with the ones you got.

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