Is it normal that i do everything to get my wife back

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Me an my wife split 3 months ago after a 5 yr relationship.we just got married in may.we have 3 kids,i kid with me two with another but i claim as mine.ok she says shes not happy and doesn love me anymore.she said i can stay until whenever.well we play around alot, wrestle,tickle but then she stops herself.we sleep in aame bed still and sometime have sex.she doesnt want a relationship anymore cause she feels like she wont be happy again.how do i get into her heart again i dont know how to talk to her or what i can and cant do with her.i dont want her to get mad.i dont remember how to b emotionally connected with her anymore,u wouldnt even know wht to say.can anyone give. me pointers and maybe how i can get her to think about me.she texts me during the day ti tell me that she is tired or stressed during the day.Our children have gotten to her so bad that she is always yelling at them.she sleeps most of the day.recenttly we hit a financally wall and we havent been out together in a long time.se goes out with her friends almost every weekend.im trying to get her to see all marriages hit a bump sometime but she doesnt see it that way.she sees it y be with someone that u arent happpy with.but i believe it is cause o al the stress ahe is under that caused her to steer away. so if anybody has any poiinters or how to talk or to say to her,pls help

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  • ChemGirl
    11 years ago

    Having been the wife in a similar situation, I'd say give her time and space, but be there for her. Be there. Don't push at all, but be there. Don't expect or force immediate change, but wait. Wait for her to come to you, but don't be cold. I can't tell you how grateful I am that my husband knew how to love me while being patient. We had a rocky spot our 2nd year of marriage, but we've been married almost 6 years and we are so happy.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    11 years ago

    Just try to be there for her and help her through this. Don't focus on getting her back. If it's not what she wants, you're just being selfish in this. She needs to realize she's happy with you. She needs to feel comfortable with you. Try to pull away a bit physically and see how she reacts. Maybe she'll realize what she'll be missing if you really did leave.

    She seems depressed and stressed. Maybe she should see a therapist to help her cope with the situation she's in.

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  • raphydaphy
    11 years ago

    you should let her be free

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    It's normal but stop. Let her choose.

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  • annm2361
    11 years ago

    Give it a period of showing time together like you put kids a bed while she has a bath or cook dinner for 2 of u. Woo her for a time and if nothing else works. Go away for say week to show her what she will really lose!!!! maybe she needs help ask her does she feel depressed? All relationships need working at and if only one person is its not fair.

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  • MarshaD
    11 years ago

    She sounds like she may have depression. Especially if she's yelling more at the kids. If she is willing to talk to someone than you may get help. Otherwise if she's made up her mind to leave it won't work. Don't torture yourself either!!! Find someone that loves you back so you don't end up sad your whole life. ;o) Please think about your peace of mind. Stuff like this can destroy someone that is caring like you.

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  • mixwell
    11 years ago

    Just let her be and give her space. No matter what you say to her it will not change her mind and the more you keep contacting her the worse it will be for you.

    Let her initiate majority of the contact and if she texts you maybe wait for a while to reply instead of waiting for the phone to go off from her. Having been in your shoes with a girlfriend I know what I'm talking about.

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  • seeking
    11 years ago

    It is normal to want her back but it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. Give her space. She is sending a lot of mixed signals, like sleeping together in the same bed and having sex. You mentioned that you guys split up because she was unhappy, I am sorry, you don't just split up because you are unhappy. There must be more to that. I have been married for almost 17 years and yes everyone goes through rough phases, financially and emotionally. I have never once felt that I have been unhappy. All I can say is be patient and give her time if you really love her.

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  • TheGuruOfTheSauce
    11 years ago

    Shes depressed and is a burden to you. dont set her free kick her ass out

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