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My boyfriend likes to be in plays and singing groups in school. I am not sure why I don't like them but I absolutely despise the fact he is in them.I want him to quit them but he refuses. Is it normal or am I just controlling?
Er.....that is a bit controlling..
If you don't like who he is, why are you with him? Either learn to accept what he does and likes, or just find someone else.
Easy.
This.
I'd say it's more than a bit controlling. If you knew of his habits beforehand and they bothered you I don't think you should have ever gotten involved with him. This would include any habits including drinking, drugs, or gambling. Don't go into something expecting to change someone.
Yep, that's the definition of controlling. He likes to do it and it's his life. She doesn't like it and doesn't know why, but she still thinks he should quit.
You my dear girl need something else to worry about because you sound like a control freak and if so he should dump you. Are you going out with him or his class?
Controlling.
He's doing something creative and healthy.
You need to decide why it bothers you so much and then let it go. Hell maybe you should join him.
I mean you COULD continue to demand that he quits but... personally that's more apt to drive him off rather than make him want to stay with you.
You want him to quit something he loves to do because you don't like it?
It shouldn't worry you that much. It's not like you have to go and watch him practice everyday.
If you despised meat would you tell him to stop eating meat? You see, it doesn't make sense.
I actually said it was normal, but only because I'm sometimes extremely embarrassed by the things my boyfriend does. Call me a bitch, great.
Let's be clear here, folks: this fella is NOT a man and she's still a teenager. Such is the nature of teenage girls most of the time.
My husband is a nerd who likes graphic design and that kind of crap.
I'm not into it and think it is kind of dumb, but it can make him some serious money, and being that I am married to him and our income is shared :D
Yeah, sounds controlling. Let the man have his hobbies. I have dated dudes that have no hobbies or passion in life and they clung to me like dryer sheets and I hated that. Especially good if the hobby can be exploited for $$$ :D
If he enjoy doing them and is passionate about doing activities you shouldn't hold him back.
Dang...honestly, I find that a bit controlling. If he was involved in theatre in order to pick up chicks, I'd say you have a case. But if he genuinely enjoys acting in plays, then I think it's harsh for you to tell him to quit. Is it because you think that males in theatre are all whimpy or something? There are plenty of masculine dudes involved in theatre :)
If you really love him then you should love every part of him as a person.
My marriage (of over 20 years) is based on the fact that 'either of us can do whatever we like as long as we're not hurting each other or anyone else!'
This works the very best, so I don't see what harm he's doing. I think you expect him to spend that time with you but in reality you should be glad he has a hobby - otherwise he may start controlling your free time. This gets boring once you've been dating more than 3-4 years, (or worse still - married) which I assume you haven't been.
My bf is the vocalist (screamer) in a death metal band sometimes it's annoying but I love him so much idc
It sounds as if you are being controling. If that us what he loves to do if you love him. You will support him with his decisions. You must accept or this can lead to s bigger issue.