Is it normal that i despise some of my family?

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I'm almost 19. I currently live with my mom, grandma, twin sister, and half-brother. My dad visits us every once in a while.

The worst is my mom. It may sound harsh, but I don't love her at all. She gets drunk or high every single night, and has slept with 3 men that I know of in the past month. She constantly yells at me because I'm "too much like my dad" and she hates him, and she calls me fat, whore, stupid, slut, dumb, etc. And has gone as far as threatening to put me up for adoption and killing my cat! She even once told me she hated me! She does stuff to piss me off. She rarely ever took me to the dentist, eye doctor or hospital especially when I needed to go. And she obviously loves my sister and brother more than me. I have caught her spying on me and hacking my Facebook profile and read my messages.she almost never lets me have friends over despite my age, and never did as a teen.

My grandma is almost as bad. She doesn't yell, but she nags. She always tells me what to do and does stuff to piss me off, like my mom. She always compares me to my cousin Katie, saying that I'm fatter and dumber, though I always weighed alot less and made better grades, so I don't know why she keeps it up. She tries to make me fat and forces me to eat, (I'm anorexic) and complains how I don't get enough exercise. She's the obese one, though! Even I'm not that big!

My sister acts like my mom, but still understands me a little. She can be okay sometimes. My brother is okay too, but I hate his dad (for raping me everyday when my mom and I lived with him, I was 8-10 when happened.) My bro is only 4 so I understand him.

My dad has never been in my life much but he doesn't criticize me like the rest of my family. I love him more than anyone in the world.

Sorry this was so long! I may have just written my own autobiography.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Your mom sounds like a worthless cunt. The rest of them don't sound so bad from your description. The fact that she was with someone who raped you and didn't kill him for it is reason enough to disown her. I wish her the worst.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    Get out as soon as you can. My brother turned out the best of the three children, because he realized sooner than the rest of us that he needed to spend as little time around my dad as possible. He stopped eating dinner with the family, went out with friends as much as possible, and went to college in another state after High School. He is now married and in his residency as a doctor. While me and my sister are left with a lot of emotional problems because of our dad, and still haven't graduated college.
    One of the best decisions you'll ever make is to get out as soon as possible, and distance yourself for right now.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Yes, it is normal to hate your family. I despise almost everyone on my mother's side of the family. I can't hate who's on my father's or grandfather's side because I don't really know them.

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  • NotStrangeBird
    10 years ago

    Yeah, I'd despise them too. More than you sound like you do.

    Good luck!

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    Wow I'm really sorry about all of this. Your 'family' doesn't treat you like a family at all and you need more people in your life that truly care about you and can help you get treatment.
    Hang in there, and love yourself.
    Good luck!

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  • q25t
    10 years ago

    Honestly, if it's even remotely possible, leave your mother behind. The whole idea of loving someone unconditionally because they're your blood is complete bullcrap. You can't just take offense after offense and not lose what respect you may have had or the person. I understand the idea of wanting to keep families together, but sometimes people are not good to be around.

    Your grandma sounds like a normal grandma, even if she does insult people. Oddly enough, complaining about how someone looks and then forcing food on them is somewhat normal behavior for all grandmas that I know.

    Your brother's dad is a sick son of a bitch and he and your mother should be ashamed.

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    You are 19, you don't have to put up with this anymore. Get out of there, now. Maybe ask a family member or your father if you can move in with them. You don't deserve all of the awfulness that's happened around you.

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  • oneofthosebeatlesfans
    10 years ago

    You shouldn't listen to anyone who tells you, "oh, you have to love them a little bit, they're your family!", because that isn't true. Okay, so what if someone's father abused them from a young age, and are now in prison? Yes. You HAVE to love them, just because you have his blood. No. Wrong.

    I completely feel for your situation..is there any way you can get out of it?

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Those people are hella toxic for you. Get away from them as soon as you can!

    Also it might help you to get some counseling and check out the twelve step program Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families because there's a lot of trauma in your life around your family of origin.
    http://www.adultchildren.org/

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  • bemah
    10 years ago

    Same, but that's only because they remind me of the things i hate about myself. I gotta admit though, your family sound like total dicks! Get out if u can

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  • anti-hero
    10 years ago

    Get to the fucking monkey!

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  • intooblivion
    8 years ago

    Love has to be earned, and just because someone is related to you doesn't give them a free ticket. That's emotional abuse.

    And the funny thing is, my mom thinks I'm too much like my dad too...

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Do ya'll live in a trailer park by any chance???

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