Is it normal that i cry when i see photos of my dead father?

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My father died when I was seven, I'm 18 now. I've only got a few photos of him because he hated having his photo taken. I can't look at photos of him and me together without crying. I just sit there for hours and cry while looking at him and thinking about what a huge loss it is that's he's gone. He was so handsome. I regret not getting to know him better, and I feel guilty because I feel like I've let him down. I have a friend whose father died when she was around ten years old and she handles it so well, she says she hardly ever cries about him. So it this normal or should I be over his death by now?

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    The pain of dealing with the death of a loved one has no set time when it should be healed. I think you're very normal and I'm so sorry for your lost.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    It's normal to feel sad but you may be using the photographs as a release of other sad emotions - almost an excuse to cry.

    I will say this - my mother's dad died when she was 7 yo and that was 65 years ago, and she has moaned about it every day of her rotten life. She says, "If only my father had've lived my life would've been different!" Balls! That bitch would never have taken her dad's advice on anything!

    My school friend's dad when she was 7 yo and she has never mentioned it.

    Everyone handles things differently but please don't dwell on it to destroy your future relationships with people. These things just happen to make you stronger.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    It should be more concerning if you did not " .

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  • nAt2017
    12 years ago

    It is normal to cry when you've lost someone. Different people handle with death and loss different ways. Your friend could be dealing with loss by not crying, and not showing that she's feeling any pain. Perhaps that's her way of coping.

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  • pansyfugufish
    12 years ago

    hmm. Having lost my own father, I can say there is definitely a time for bereavement, but its psychologically unhealthy to dwell on what could have been. Why dont you see a therapist?

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