Is it normal that i cry and he doesn't care anymore?

we have been together for almost 2 years. I noticed sometimes I like to pick fights with him and feel we truly won't be able to be happy anymore because of all the things he has lied to me about. sometimes I start crying because he says really mean things but he doesn't come over and say I'm sorry or anything like I would expect him to do. is he not normal or something??? come on, I thought guys always say sorry even if they are not just to make the girl shut up or so he can still sleep with her later that night..please don't comment and say we should brake up..that's not the answer i am looking for. He has cried to me 2 times that i can think of. one of the times we were kissing and he was really high(weed) and he started crying saying i'm the only person that has ever cared for him. the 2nd time he was yelling at me because i hadnt washed the blankets and we fell asleep without any because it was really hot but when he woke up at 4am he was pissed and started saying very mean things, when he came out of the shower he hugged me, started crying, and said he was sorry and that it was not my fault. He never likes to show his feelings though at all. he has had a very fucked up childhood from his dad beating him and both his mom and dad hardly fed him. it just sucks because I pictured the guy I wanted to tell me how he feels and can talk to me about anything if he's sad but my bf doesn't like to tell me shit.i know he loves me....i just get him really mad sometimes. he said when i 1st came into his life he was sooo happy because i was the thing that actually made him want to live and he had someting to look foward to unlike before. he really hates his dad and has these negetive feelings stuck deep down inside of him. he also hates himself because he's 5'4 and has thick eyebrows. i really dont give a fuck about that, i'm obviously still here. he always is thing about getting into fights too. i just wish he didnt think so negative. this all seems very confusing i'm guessing, but anyone got advice on any of this? i just want him to show his affection. and sorry that the story doesn't really go with the is it normal question lol. i got a little too carried away

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Comments ( 8 )
  • White187

    Not apologizing when you're crying is pretty cold.

    But you also say that you pick fights over old things thats bad too, try not to do that :)

    Is he still lying to you?

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    • STFU23

      no not anymore(:
      yes i try not to but it's just hard

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  • pem24

    To tolerate him? Yes its bad.

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    • STFU23

      how am i tolerating him?

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      • pem24

        add this: IIN if I ask my brain to work for me? NORMAL

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  • pem24

    Sounds to me like both of you were dependent of each other. You react when he acts and eventually you are giving him excuses to be not responsible of his behavior. He is dependent because you are tolerating his actions. Well, you are not in-charge of his life and you should not be blamed for choosing himself to stay that way.

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    • STFU23

      is that a bad thing?

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  • lc1988

    Well with what he's been through, he's used to bottling everything up inside. It's not really anything you can necessarily change. My bf also gets angry at me when I cry. It's just part of his personality I had to get used to.

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