Is it normal that i couldn't care less about my sick brother?

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About half a year ago, my brother got pretty severe cancer. It was completely spread over his body. When we found out, everybody was pretty shocked.

I however was more shocked with the fact that my mother cried. I've never seen her cry before.

Even now, when he is still doing chemo's, I don't really care about how he's doing. It's not that I hate him and want him to die or anything like that. It's just that we never really bonded.

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  • Sia327
    11 years ago

    I think it's normal only if you have either never met him or haven't seen him since you were very young (even then I still believe there should be some feeling). So unless your brother did something extremely unforgivable or is a stranger to you I think that not feeling anything isn't human.

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    • bristexai
      11 years ago

      Everyone is fucking human!

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    No, but I don't believe that this makes you a lesser person...

    People are just affected by different things than others. I know I would be heartbroken if my brother ever got cancer and I have spent most of his life on the other side of the continent from him. It is possible, however, that you really just have no bond with him so you can't properly feel for him. It's all good. Obviously you two don't have much of a relationship though. That sucks. A sibling relationship is incredible, especially as you get older.

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  • campbellrt
    11 years ago

    You disgusting person. I could punch you in the face.

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  • kittylitter101
    11 years ago

    I think you answered your own question. It's hard to feel bad about someone who you haven't really become attached to being sick.

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  • poopyface
    11 years ago

    thats yur blood thats not normal to not care that he has cancer! If he dies i bet yull feel like shit smh.

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  • Short4Words
    11 years ago

    I think you should tell your brother this. Not that you don't care, but that you wish to bond more with him. Maybe just tell him that, if i was him I would feel really hurt if you felt that way. You could just say maybe you won't be here for long, and we've never had much of a relationship but we could at least try now. My Dad died and my brother and I still rarely talk. I'm not sure how I feel about it, but it doesn't feel like he's my brother. It's like he's a half brother, my mom really loves him, but I don't have much connection with him.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Bunch of pussies on here. Seriously, it's fine man. I had about 3 relatives die this year and I didn't give a shit AT ALL about any of it. I'd never really spoken to them more than 30mins in my whole life so it was like a stranger had died. No big deal.

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  • laugh.alot13
    11 years ago

    Even if you never bonded with him, he's still your brother and it's a little unhealthy to not care about family if they never did anything traumatic to you.

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