Is it normal that i could go out by myself but i don't feel like it?

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I live in a nice town that has a pretty good nightlife scene on the weekends. All the places are basically within walking distance from where I live. I've been to most of the places before with friends and have an okay time usually, but that doesn't happen often because I'm not very close with the people who like to go out there.

On the weekend when I feel lonely, I'll go out and walk around town by myself at 11:30 or so just to see what's going on. I don't actually go into any of the bars though because I don't think it would be fun or I might get embarrassed. I think it's kind of a waste that I have all these places around though and I'm still off alone wandering around by myself at night.

Is it normal?

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  • IMissMary
    8 years ago

    Normal or not that strange. You want to get out of the house but you don't really like the crowds and social scene. You need a good hobby that keeps your interest.

    When I was single I used to do the same thing. For me I don't relate to the club goers

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  • ravensuichiro
    10 years ago

    srsly. you just need someone to go out with. why not start at the bar? broaden your acquantances and have fun:)

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  • Maggie2000
    10 years ago

    Hmmm, I see what you mean about the difficulty with bars. As I said before, the only thing I can suggest is joining some sort of club that interests you.

    Don't worry, I am not your friend Maggie - I am in the South East of the UK and my real name isn't Maggie anyway!

    All the best!

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  • Maggie2000
    10 years ago

    Do you really like the atmosphere in bars?
    If you don't, you could find something different to do on weekend evenings - could you join clubs that interest you?
    If you do enjoy these bars, go more often with your friends and get to know them more.
    Or, if you are brave enough, have a drink for some Dutch courage, go in and see if you can get chatting to some strangers - you might find some new friends.
    By the way, which country/city/town are you in? Of course, don't say if you don't want to, but I like to get an rough idea of a poster's location!
    All the best!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I don't particularly enjoy them. They're loud and very crowded - you can't even move. Large groups of people are standing around everywhere, so if you aren't in a group you feel like a complete loser. There's no hope of ever finding a space to sit down. Carrying on a conversation is hard with a friend, and impossible with a stranger.

      I guess part of the purpose of these walking trips is to maybe find someone else to talk to or something else to do. There seems to be little hope of that though.

      I live somewhere on the east coast of the US, but I won't say where because I know a Maggie and I would be mortified if by some coincidence she turned out to be you and she was able to deduce who this was.

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