Is it normal that i caught my boyfriend jerking off to another man?

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well i have a problem. my boyfriend is 19 and i am 17. he likes to go onto the internet alot and i always look at the history to see what he goes on when im not around. Well one day i looked at it and he was on yahoo messenger jerking off to men on a web cam. i found this very akward and i didnt know how to approach him. i have caught him doing htis more then once and he says he isnt gay but i have a hard time beliving him. it was starting to cause very serious problems for our relationship. i have caught him sending them messages sayin things like 'i want you to wrap your arms around my little body nd shove that dick in my ass.' i have caught him and talked to him about it but i dont know what to do anymore. someone please give me some advice??

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  • gaf_92
    12 years ago

    Okay regardless of the rest of the shit in ya story - you check his history?! D: insecure or what!!!

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    • millzgirl123
      12 years ago

      umm im not insecure douche bag i cant trust him that why i look at the history

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  • MiszNii
    12 years ago

    from a girls point of view I think he's gay. If I ever caught my boyfriend doing any of this I would have to question him and it would make me worry so that would be the end of our relationship. ESPECIALLY if he says he wants a man to put it in his butt ? that is where you should draw the line. gay, gay, gay, not to be rude but it's true !

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  • rayst
    12 years ago

    Wtf bitch stop stalking. Get a new bf if you feel you need to spy yours.

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  • georgienne
    12 years ago

    Maybe he's straight and just likes 'flirting' with guys, and getting off to it.
    Maybe he's gay and doesn't tell you cause he knows you'd be weirded out.

    There's nothing to confront about. I'd just ask him about it. It's useless judging him when you don't know his story.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    Get a new a boyfriend? Obviously he knows what he wants. So you should go get what you want. Lol

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  • iin2want2know
    11 years ago

    You have trust issues. Stop spying already.

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  • simpledude
    12 years ago

    Well if the OP is still checking this and not broken up with her dude....

    Wanted to mention that it's actually quite normal and common for dudes to jack with eachother and not be gay. Guys do it all the time when going through puberty and I have done it many times myself even at my age (26).

    I have many friends who do it together or in front of eachother both in person and on cam. It truly has nothing to do with being gay and wanting a relationship with another dude. It's purely self-sexual. It's masturbation.

    Sometimes guys just need to get off and don't want to do it alone, no strings, no commitment, no drama. I have a couple dudes who are the most straightest, macho guys, married with kids and Christian who still get together to jack off or they do it on cam.

    It's being human.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    How can you see what he was seeing on a web cam when this isn't recorded in internet history? The chat can be recorded, but the cam generally isn't.

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    • millzgirl123
      12 years ago

      yes it is everything goes to the history no matter what you go on

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  • happyhuppy
    12 years ago

    Leave it or live with it

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  • aduusw
    12 years ago

    In my opinion there are only two important things; do you trust him? Is he telling the truth? And secondly, do you love each other?

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  • asdf90091
    12 years ago

    Important invasive question: has he had sex with you, or any other woman? He sounds bicurious, maybe even bisexual to me, but if he's never done anything with a girl he's probably gay and in the closet about it.

    The fact that he's getting off to it means he feels some sort of attraction to men. Slightly bisexual, at the very least.

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