Is it normal that i cant make small talk

We can start by talking about the extermination of the human race. EXTERMINATE!

Thats because the two of you have nothing to talk about. Try bringing up subjects you likr or know a lot about, try to find something you'll have in common. Love video games? Start talking about it. Know alot about cars? Talk about it. Political opinions will usually spark conversation, though it's easy to disagree hugely.

I can't even bring myself to ask "how are you?" HOnestly I don't care about that. Neither should strangers care about me. Sure, if I look sad/upset- Go for it.

But don't bother me unless you have something to say.

You could talk about the weather, Give them a complement, on something their wearing. Or say how your feeling, in that moment. Like Im hungry, Im tired Im in a good mood. Etc. Hope that helps.

I'll get nervous and start farting

Just ask em questions, people like to talk about themselves :)

Sowhereyoufrom? 4 strangers
wannhearajoke? 4 friends
justcauseiwanna 4 family
sh 4 splashy

u need to get drunk... u'll keep talking..

Prepare in advance. Make a list of questions. Literally write some down and memorize them. You can do it right now if you want.

Play on the situation. If you're in a social setting with someone you don't know, you can ask them who they're with. Whether you know them or not you can ask them what they're eating or drinking (if they are), whether they've been to this venue before, what they think of the atmosphere, the music (if there is any). If you're not in a social situation you can talk to people are work or school if you're at work or school.

When they respond, you can answer with your opinion on that subject. "Oh, I don't like the music either". "Oh, I've not started that piece of work yet". "Oh, I'm drinking ... ". Most people are able to pick it up from there by practice. I remember in school my standard silence-filling question was "what [lesson] 'ave you got next?". If it was one I knew about we could talk about it. If it was one I didn't they could teach me something, or I would tell them what I had next and we could talk about that. It worked fine for me. Find a strategy that works for you, and practice it until it starts to feel natural.

The most important thing to remember is that people don't remember it as much as you think when you fuck up. They often don't even notice you even if you feel like you're floundering. In general conversation people honestly don't care much about how cool and calm you sound.

I just say "haha" to everything they say or just nod and "yea" lol

Some of us can only make small talk with people we feel comfortable with. I think I'm that way more often than I would like to be. You're not alone in this. Lots of people feel funny starting a conversation. You can always make a compliment on their shoes, hair, anything. Like if you happen to like how someone's hair is cut, you can always tell them it looks good and ask where they got it done. If you saw something interesting on TV last night, mention it to them. Maybe they saw it too and you can both talk about it. If your mind goes really blank, you can always say "I'm feeling so tired, forgive me if I'm not much company right now". And you can buy some self-help books that might help you make small talk or bigger conversations easier. Good Luck to you. And remember, you're not alone.

I can't, it seems pointless.