Is it normal that i cant live with my fiances parents?

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I have tried so hard to be polite and helpful to my partners parents and it still is never good enough! They always complain about something I have done wrong or if I buy my self something they are rude and will attack me .. what can I do I'm at my breaking point where I'm such a nice person and feel like if they say one more thing I might freak out.. I'm so greatful that they let me live in there home but to act like I'm there butler is not okay to me.what can I do so I don't have a melt down!. Thanks.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    What the hell are you doing engaged to a man that can't afford a place for the two of you (or at least to chip in his share)? It might be time to rethink your options.

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    • GirlyMom13
      8 years ago

      Well I love him and he's trying his best.. it's just hard because I can't live with his parents no more.. but as for money I'm not a gold digger I dont look for that quality I see he's trying hard so we can move out I just am gunman lose my mind before we do lol

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Why do people keep the OP is a girl? They even said "butler" instead of "maid" ...

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    • GhostOfUdi
      8 years ago

      Will the OP has the user name girlymom and they have a child together so those are some big friggin clues. Not many gay couples without enough money to move out of their parents house would qualify for adoption. Also a Butler is the head of the kitchen and dining room, it is not a male version of a maid as you seem to believe.

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      • Arm0se
        8 years ago

        Look at the time stamps. No one knew what her name was during the times they commented. I've never heard a woman say "I am not your butler!", nor have I ever heard a man say "I'm not a maid!".

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        • GhostOfUdi
          8 years ago

          Well I mean if you have never heard it in your long 18 years of life I guess it has never been said. Maid is gender specific as it is short for maidservent. The male version is manservant. But that doesn't matter because the OP never said maid. The OP said butler and that is not a gender specific title. As I already said a butler is not a male version of a maid, it is the head of the kitchen and dining room. Your ignorance to the meaning of words, and you lack of experience communicating is not proof of the gender of the OP.

          Also, looking at the time stamp, the OP revealed her user name and other facts a half hour before you questioned her gender, which is what I was referring to. It had already been established before your comment, so it was a non issue.

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          • Arm0se
            8 years ago

            A woman calling herself a butler as a way of demeaning herself is not at all common. Have you ever heard it said outside of this post? As for the time stamp thing you got me. I didn't refresh the page before commenting, but the others still posted she was a guy BEFORE she spoke up :/

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            • GhostOfUdi
              8 years ago

              Yes I have.

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    • GirlyMom13
      8 years ago

      What is a op? And yes I am a girl lol sorry if it's suppose to be maid?! But same difference is I don't wanna feel like that's all I'm here for...

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      • Arm0se
        8 years ago

        OP is original poster (that's you!) ^-^

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  • GhostOfUdi
    8 years ago

    I don't know who is the bigger loser, the guy still living at home with mom and dad, or the girl who would move in with such a guy?

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    • GirlyMom13
      8 years ago

      Well I don't really think were losers just we try and try but never can make enough I should have been more in detail he is going to school for a dental job and he works so to me that's not being a loser that's him trying has hard as he can I have a daughter so that's where the money goes not everybody can afford a place or get shut handed to them not saying you do it's just to have a better life we have to leave here .. no need to call people's names and judge passed on me not getting along with his parents when probably in about a year will be living fine!

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      • GhostOfUdi
        8 years ago

        I have no doubt you guys don't think you are losers, losers rarely do. If he is not ready to move out on his own, it is ridiculous for him to ask you to move in with him yet, and equally ridiculous for you to accept. You are losers.

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        • GirlyMom13
          8 years ago

          Like I said we have a daughter and you are aloud to have your opinion.. but I do not agree with you a loser is some one who doesn't do anything work or school we do both and try very hard so no to me I'm not a loser.

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          • GhostOfUdi
            8 years ago

            I am wondering how much you actually contribute to the house. Because if you are not giving your fair share, but buying yourself nice things, I can understand why they would "attack" you for buying yourself stuff. Are they helping to feet your daughter while you are shoe shopping, stuff like that?

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