Is it normal that i cant leave him?

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Me and this guy have been together on and off for like 4 years now.. Things are always very hectic with us. Things are either really really good or were taking blows to one another. I mean dont get me wrong we have had aloot of good times. Hes the only person who knows me inside and out and still loves me. He was there with me at my only grandpas funeral crying with me. Weve been in many altercations where hes pretty much beaten me up.... But I just cant seem to leave him. Theres been times where we have been broken up or on a break for months at a time and i dated other people but they just didnt compare to him.... Ive tried blocking him from calling or texting me and he would get ahold of me on facebook so I would block him on there. He would make another account and we would end up talking on that one... Things have gotten pretty bad between us. I walked around with a HUGE black eye for close to a month yet I still talked to him after that. It just seems like no matter what happens I cant seem to leave him and stick with it. I found out he went to jail after I had left state due to not being able to support myself so I had to move back to my parents... I was devastated to begin with because I didnt get a chance to say goodbye to him before i had left. And then i find out after I was already gone that he was in jail and that was why I wasnt able to contact him. It just doesnt make sense to me. How can I still love this person and want more than anything in the world to be with him right this very second even after everything hes put me through... Am I crazy or just blinded by love? Is it normal to just feel like a BIG piece of me is missing now that I cant talk to him even after all of the bad stuff? Is it normal that I stuck around after the first fight we got into that was physical? Is it normal that Im crying my eyes out as I write this cuz I miss him so bad? Is something wrong with me? Hes all I want. I dont want anyone else. Ugh help me

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    if you don't want to leave him, because obviously you don't and he'd probably have to kill you to get you away from him than please, please get an IUD. Do NOT have children with him and bring innocent babies into this. You are BOTH mentally ill. No, a sane person with healthy self esteem would not stay with someone who would abuse them and refuse to leave them alone. You have mental health issues, you're addicted to the drama and you need to seek a therapist

    However, if you don't care and you want to deny that you have any problems at all, then please, for the love of god, stay on birth control. Bringing kids into this will turn their lives into nightmares.

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  • standbyme555
    11 years ago

    Sadly I do the same thing with my boyfriend.
    I do love him, and I know he loves me, we just both have anger issues.
    He should never hit you though.
    I say actually take a LONG break. Change your number, delete your fb, get new friends. Then in 4-6 months see what happens. Easier said than done I know

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    no one cqn help you unless you help yourself.. Abusive relationship is not worth sticking upto. If he needs you so bad he'll try his best not to hit you. I think he knows that you're too.much into him and he'll get away with hitting you. Fuck sakes leave him or simply take a break and get your shit together

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      we dont know how to take a break and stick with it...

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  • scared4us
    11 years ago

    Well I havent talked to him in like a month now... I left state where I was living cuz i had no where to go so i had to come live with my family. Also he is sitting in jail right now... So i really cant talk to him... If you read my other post its more in depth about the situation... Its almost like im addicted to him and his ways.... idk what to do. Cuz even tho im 1600 miles away from him now all i want to do is be there when he gets out of jail and hold him.... Idk. I dont know how to live without him. I have like nothing without him. He was my provider my lover my best friend just everything wrapped into one.

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