Is it normal that i can turn my feelings on and off?

soooo... here’s the thing. i never was much of a ‘feeler’. never felt a lot of feelings irl, for the exception of when reading/watching series/animes/movies.
i always thought it was weird how i cried at things i read online, but not on real life situations.
also, i can turn my feelings on and off on command.
i can forget anyone easily, even if i sent 100,00 thousand messages to them.
i can stop my own mental suffering the moment i want and be numb to everything around me, but that comes with the cost of being low energy and no facial expression, mostly.
also, i fell in love ONCE in my whole life and had only TWO crushes, and i’m almost 22 :x
i don’t think that’s normal?
sometimes i think i’m a psychopath, since in the past i loved to manipulate people - not for bad things. for good ones, but i did it anyways.
but i’m strongly agaisnt violence and love to offer any help i can (i’m studying psychology for dat reason) so i see myself as a duality. two people in one.

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  • SleepyFox13

    Wow, I would swear you just described me. From half a decade ago, anyways. I even got a degree in psychology ;)

    Anyways, when you “turn your feelings off” what you’re actually doing is dissociating from them. The feelings still exist, you just aren’t consciously aware of them. This is actually kind of dangerous, since the more you do it the harder it is to ever associate with your emotions. Please seek psychiatric counseling as soon as possible. Dissociative tendencies are strongly linked with a variety of depression and anxiety disorders, which are totally treatable. Seriously, please seek help. Don’t wait until you do something stupid like I did.

    Also, I’m not a counselor, but if you ever want to talk about your experiences with someone who’s been through the same shit, feel free to contact me.

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  • negative_emotions

    Don’t worry, I feel the same way. I have extreme paranoia, and I learned to deal with it by shutting down any fear I have of anything. I can do the same with people, forget about them even if they’re my best friend. I’ve been considered for Borderline Personality Disorder, so I think that might relate? But who knows. Either way, I can strongly relate to your situation

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  • Doublebubbledragon

    I heard of it as a coping mechanism for dealing with toxic people called Grey stone. I kind of did it for a while when I was under constant punishment for having bad grades in school for the majority of my life. I hope that you're happy and that this isn't happening because of sad stuff like that. :/

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  • ReflectiveBread

    You actually remind me a bit of... well, me! I can't really 'turn my feelings on and off', but I've never been a very 'feeling' person either, and I'm able to get over things VERY quickly. I still don't know if this normal, so I'll wait to see how the reception of this post turns out. I was starting to get a little scared of if I was a barely-emotional husk of a person, but this post gives me a little more confidence. Good luck!

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  • mattypattpatt

    While you may think your not feeling anything. I think your just bubbling it up inside, and not allowing yourself feel. Then when you aren't as vulnerable such as when reading/watching series/animes/movies, you let those repressed emotions. which in itself isn't inherently unhealthy, however there is still risk to your mental health.
    Though what it really boils down to is you have feelings like every other person, and like every other person you cope with them in your own way. And if you ask me that is normal.

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  • andithoughtiwasweird

    its not normal. but it doesnt mean u are evil.

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  • mr_sea

    I did that in school when everyone roasted me every day for an entire semester. I can't do that anymore since I haven't been roasted for a while now.

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  • FaolanGrey

    I can do the same thing but you do know that this happens to psychopaths right?

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  • Sindra_Maywell

    I do the same thing, so could a lot of my family, my dad always called us border line sociopaths, for many reasons. But yeah I can do the same thing, but I tend to act very feeling and animated so people aren't uncomfortable around me.

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  • Appareson

    That's a neat trick, the uniqueness of it really makes it nice. It being unique, thus not normal.

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  • Renhanfuri

    Uh, no.

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