Is it normal that i can't take a relationship seriously?

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I lost my virginity when I was 15. Everyone expects their first time to be great: in a bed with someone they love and trust. Mine was rather the opposite. It was in a public bathroom with two guys who got me drunk. Romantic? I don't think so.
But ever since then I've been going down the wrong path. I had been drinking, smoking, going out and partying, sneaking behind my parents back's just to get out for another night of danger. The reason I'm posting this, is because of the sex factor. I had multiple sexual partners, and i was only 15. Word quickly got around of my new lifestyle and I found i was very 'popular'.

But then I was caught. My mum read though my phone messages after she was very concerned about my behavior (thank god she did).

It's been a while since that stage of my life but i can't seem to completely move on. I always want a relationship with a nice guy who loves me for who I am. Calls me beautiful and spoils me a little and all that stuff that a boyfriend is meant to do. So how come when I finally get a cute guy who is head over heels for me, I can't seem to like him back. He's everything I want in a guy, so chemistry isn't the problem. I think it's something to do with my past.

You need help 2
Maybe this guy isn't the one for you 0
Single could be the right way to go 3
These issues will sort them self out. 1
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  • thinkingaboutit
    12 years ago

    You need a therapist because you have issues but they aren't 'mental'. If you do go in for an appt a psychiatrist will evaluate you. They are probably doing to diagnose you with depression and offer you drugs. Uh based on your problems, you certainly don't NEED any. Thats just an fyi. Anyway...

    Your young, why do you want to force yourself to like someone you simply don't? You want to be loved, of course you do, but it won't be by just anyone. Please, learn to love yourself first, or love from other people simply won't feel as good.

    I'm sorry to hear about your first time, and I'm very glad that you have good sense to know the road you've slipped into is filled with heartache. I don't know how old you are now but save the partying for when your a little more mature and self-confident. Booze and weed inhibits you like no other, and really takes a toll on your self respect. You sound more in control of your actions, so good job.

    Again about the not taking relationships seriously, you will when the time is right. No need to force anything. Always make sure you are comfortable with the people and environment your in, and your bound to find a boy who is good for you; not just you for him.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    Exactly why I don't get a ton of girls these days. Even when you think everything would work out, it's never enough.

    But to get back to what you're post is about, I mean I don't know. There might be a deep rooted mental issue that you need to deal with? See a psychiatrist?

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    • thinkingaboutit
      12 years ago

      a psychiatrist is a drug dispenser. not a therapist.

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      • Who_Fan4Life
        12 years ago

        Psychiatrist, therapist...whatever, you get the point.

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