Is it normal that i can't stop thinking of my husbands mistress?

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I just can't stop thinking of her and what they did together. About 4 months ago while I was 8 months preganant she came to our door when I was home alone. She knew he would be at work. With an envelope in her hand she proceeded to ask me if I am his wife. She handed it to me but I invited her in, not understanding what she wanted. There were hundreds of pictures and emails of which my husband sent to her, even nudes.
I was in complete shock. She said they had sex numerous times, my husband denied it. I of course being and Indian wife , forgave him and listened to his regrets and excuses. He after all was my God at that point. It was a year long affair, no promises but he sent thousands of emails that said I love you, to her.

The fact that I saw her, and she was very beautiful and knowing what they did or planned to, from the very sexual emails. I cannot stop imagining her and him. I just sit there and imagine at night what they were doing. I cannot stop myself. I cannot stop this obsessive behavior.
My husband thinks i need help because I keep wanting answers from him which I never get an answer.

Am I going off the deep end or is this normal behavior after a 15 year marriage with 2 kids.

Shallu

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    This probably won't make you feel any better, but it could have been a mid-life crisis kind of thing. Some guys get a motorcycle, but occasionally some opt for new booty. Maybe if you try to be more understanding that it was a mistake (or at least pretend to be) you will get your answers. He probably doesn't want to think about how much of a dumb ass he is, much less talk about it.

    Unfortunately he might blame you for doing this. If he does, try to accept that he has done this and can't take it back. Anger, resentment and accusations only make it worse. Try not to let your emotions overpower your mind and make good efforts to work with him if he will promise to work with you.

    You probably do need help from a trusted friend, to at least to vent your frustrations to. But your reaction is completely normal and understandable.

    I hope you two work it out and overcome it. Good luck.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    You should both be in couples counseling if you really want to work this out and put it behind you

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    Sounds to me like you all need to have a threesome with this woman.

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  • dinz
    11 years ago

    Your husband thinks you need help? He is the one who needs help to control his urges.

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