Is it normal that i can't stand one side of my family?

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I feel bad saying this, but I really dislike most of the people on my mom's side of the family. My dad's side is so laid back and fun, but most of the people on my mom's side are so mean. I always have felt so uncomfortable and tense around my mom's side. I am a huge people pleaser, and my whole life I have tried so hard to please and impress my mom's family. However, they are so mean and flakey. My mom's siblings are so selfish and only care about themselves. Some of there kids (my cousins) are extremely nice and good people, but I still don't feel comfortable talking to them because of the tense atmosphere the rest of the family creates. This has caused me a lot of stress in my life. As a perfectionist, people pleaser, and loving person, I have always strived to fix this area of my life. However, now I am thinking of phasing this portion of my family out of my life. Is anyone else experiencing anything similar?

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  • Feh
    10 years ago

    My aunt, by marriage, is a terrible person, selfish, judgmental, hypocritical and racist. Her husband, my mom's brother, is a nice guy, funny, outgoing and racist. I miss my uncle, because he'll at least keep his mouth shut about race around me, so we can have fun. My aunt is such a bitch it's really hard to bring myself to visit them now that my cousins don't live with them and my grandma is dead.

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    I feel more comfortable with my dad's sister than withmy aunts on my mother's side. But most of my cousins are okay except the children of one of my aunts on my mother's side. The whole family is so boring and they are always looking for flaws in people. I don't like being with them.

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  • kawaiigurl
    10 years ago

    same here. i feel so comfortable when i'm with my dad's family. my mom's side is so uptight and everyone hates to talk about their problems and be real because my grandma is so judgmental everyone would rather pretend everything is perfect than be honest with her. and since i never willingly visit them i'm always forced to spend thanksgiving with my mom's side which is problematic because i miss out on seeing all my other family members that i actually like. sucks!!

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  • Legion
    10 years ago

    my dads side of my family is made up of snobs. They are real uptight and judgemental, except for my grandma. I havent even talked to any of them since my grandma died. When we went to her funeral, we had to borrow our friends truck cause our van has no paint and they would be talking bad about us.

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