Is it normal that i can't stand being near him anymore?

76% Normal
14 Comments

So Iv'e already posted about my current wonderful boyfriend, and everyone seemed to say dump him. I wanted to try to work things out because naturally sometimes people can make mistakes and can correct their behavior. He hasn't changed and if anything there has been more negative things iv'e been adding to the list.

One of them being he decided to call me some names for not picking up the phone and talking to him, and another being that he is trying to make me jealous with other females because he likes when a girl gets jealous...

He will actually full out eye fuck any female near us to see if I will get jealous. Instead to be honest I'm embarrassed to even be with him. I don't get angry with him like I think I should, I just get repulsed. I feel like now everything he does repulses me. Mostly because he has been bullying me about my appearance to make me feel less of the person I am.

Is it weird to be repulsed by someone that your dating? I've never felt this before and it's strange...
I want to dump him because I honestly cannot even bare to be around him anymore. He is so selfish and conceited that it makes me sick, not to mention he has this bully complex he acknowledges he has.

I just don't know what the best way to dump him is...
I've thought about seeing him in person and doing it last week, unfortunately his car was broken into on our date and I didn't want do it then, because I'M not a douche.

Then this week has been hell and I have been thinking how I can even make it through until the weekend to see him, and better yet it's Halloween so how could I do that? Well I could but I feel like it be pretty low for me because I wouldn't want that done to me.

CAN SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME GOOD ADVICE ON HOW TO DUMP HIM?
Nothing too cruel, and i'm pretty sure he stated he can blackmail me, so I don't want to get him to try to ruin my life after it all.

SAVE ME. xx

Voting Results
76% Normal
Based on 17 votes (13 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 14 )
  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    What a creep, we can just beat him up for u

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
      -
    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      I'm up for a bit of the ole ultra violence.
      :-D

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      1
      1
    • define:normal
      9 years ago

      Well I've never been one for violence but.... :P

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    Youre not married or engages, you've got it easy. Just tell him its over and don't take phone calls/texts any kind of messages from him. Delete and block his number. The only way to really get rid of a person is to stop all contact.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Arrange to meet him at a public place during daylight hours for coffee or something and then tell him it's not working out for you, you need your space to work on personal stuff and yadda yadda yadda. Don't fixate, or better yet don't even bother mentioning the problems. If you have to you can always give the old, "it's not you, it's me", line. Wish him well in his life and all his future endeavors, then say goodbye and get into your car and drive away.

    ...and don't look back.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • (s)aint
      9 years ago

      Even though this guy deserve to get dumped, everyone deserves to find out why the relationship ended. Not knowing hurts more than I ever assumed it would.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • define:normal
        9 years ago

        I have told him multiple times about the things he does that makes me upset or uncomfortable and it's come down to he is who he is. And for me that happens to be a childish, selfish, brat that only cares about benefiting himself. Hes a rude man child. He knows it, I know it, and I just want a clean break from him and to leave that whole mess of a relationship in the past.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        1
        1
          -
        • (s)aint
          9 years ago

          Still, tell him that you are breaking up with him because it isn't working out and that he doesn't show any signs of improving is better than just dropping him with a cliche or a bad explanation.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          -1
          -1
      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        If this guy can't figure out why then he's got brain damage. Often times telling a person why is just an invitation for the person to engage and attempt to bargain. OP doesn't need bullshit empty promises of change; she needs a clean, hassle free break.

        The most important thing for anyone who is being broken up with to know is that they are powerless over the thoughts, emotions and actions of the person who is leaving them. Acceptance is the key and answer to the problem.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • (s)aint
          9 years ago

          Usually people are oblivious to their own actions and how they impact others. OP gotta be determined to end it, but I still stand by my previous statement that everyone deserves an explanation, even if said explanation is "You are a jerk to me"

          if not, then she should just dump him through text or something because that will hurt as much as stupid clichés.

          And yeah, I'm over that episode now but it was horrific in the beginning.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
    • define:normal
      9 years ago

      Sounds pretty simple. I guess that could work. I'm just not sure how he will react. :/

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Which is precisely why I suggested breaking up with him in a public place and during daylight hours. If he tries to bargain or freaks out or whatever just say, "Goodbye" and leave. It's possible to be both gentle and firm. I wish you all the best with this.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
  • driedroses
    9 years ago

    Start acting bad yourself and make him dump you, or have your parents help you come up with a plan. Maybe they can be the ones to tell him he has to stop seeing you, bc they "overheard" about his abuse or something.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Just tell him you are done. Simple as that. And don't make excuses to procrastinate like it's halloween or similar reasons.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0