Is it normal that i can't seem to make friends?

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I am in high school and I have recently been having much trouble making new friends. I watch everyone else have these great connections with people they just met, but I have trouble going up to someone to talk to them first. Obviously, I need to learn to speak first, but why is it that no one bothers to talk to me? I don't have a bad reputation or anything. It's just making me feel lonely....no one seems to realize I'm there.

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  • Jfdp
    10 years ago

    Get out more- It sounds clichéd I know but the more people you meet the way more likely you are too make friends, don't be scared of saying the wrong thing, people are surprisingly relaxed about those kinds of situations if you seem to feel the same way, and oh yah, personal hygiene, even amongst guys is a definite thing, try excersising too

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    • hiiiiiiiiiii
      10 years ago

      Well I can make friends I guess. But it seems much harder than for everyone else.

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  • EdWall234
    10 years ago

    Here's how to make friends:
    1. Make yourself as attractive as possible, even if you're a guy, I don't know why but looks seem to factor into high school friendships, or at least appearances.
    2. Start to hang out with people you've worked with in class. By hang out I mean stand around with the group saying little to nothing.
    3. Eventually after hanging out with this group there will be an unspoken approval for you to start talking.
    4. Keep hanging out with this group as they will be your only friends for the next 6 years.

    This is not a joke this is how students make friends. Just remember that your own identity will change into the group's identity, small price to pay to not be miserable in school.

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    • davesumba
      10 years ago

      I have to disagree with #1. Attractive people may only hang out with attractive people, but those are far from the people I ever wanted to be friends with in High School. You don't want to change a thing about yourself, and you will find people who love you for you.
      Just don't look messy and like you don't take care of yourself, and comb your hair.

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      • hiiiiiiiiiii
        10 years ago

        Yeah, understood. I know that girls who try to look too good aren't accepted in any group. Either way, I'm all natural lol. I'm not willing to spend hours a day perfecting my looks!

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    • LondonTbags117
      10 years ago

      This may not be a joke but I still find it hilarious how it's true.

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  • iheartu2013
    10 years ago

    I suck at making friends. Didn't help my family moved a lot in my middle school and high school years. Guess I kinda gave up. Now I am 24 and only have my family. I have neighbors I talk to, and spend a tiny bit of time with. But no friends :( pathetic, I know. Unless you count online friends I have two of those I talk to daily. We talk on the phone to. But they live really far away from me. Anyway, back to the topic. I don't think it's really normal not to have friends. Maybe your like me and just Anti-Social. :( I hope not. It sucks only having family. But at least I have them.

    God bless you and yours!

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  • ObsessedWithReedus
    10 years ago

    Trust me, you're not alone.

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    • hiiiiiiiiiii
      10 years ago

      Oh, I know. There are many people with the same problem. I try to go up to those people to make them feel like someone does care. The worst feeling is to feel alone, so I lay as well share my lonliness with others who are lonely:)

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      • ObsessedWithReedus
        10 years ago

        Dat's da spirit! I wish i could meet a friend like you.

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        • hiiiiiiiiiii
          10 years ago

          We're out there, just harder to find:)

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    I used to be like that in high school but I'm a little bit autistic. Mild Pervasive Personality Disorder to be more accurate. Everyone just bullied me :(

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    • hiiiiiiiiiii
      10 years ago

      I'm very sorry to hear that. Yeah, high school is rough. I think I may have a social anxiety disorder which obviously helps me none. I hope you have a good group of friends now. If not, I'm very willing to talk it up sometime:)

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  • Jfdp
    10 years ago

    Just don't give p- socializing is a skill youl get better at with practise

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    • hiiiiiiiiiii
      10 years ago

      Oh I would never give up.

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  • loonylightsgood
    10 years ago

    ^^ the comment above is really bad advice! maybe you're just very introverted. If you don't know what it means look it up. And there are a lot more extroverts than there are introverts in the world. Ain't nothing wrong with that. I'm kind of a big introvert. I'm shy and I have social anxiety and being an introvert does not mean you are shy just to make that clear. You didn't mention anything about you being shy so. There are definitely A LOT of kids at your school who feel the same way. Its just so hard to find them. I'm like you and I don't have close friends of a best friend. Never in my life have I had that one true friend to just be there for me you know? I don't connect with other people that easily. But its not weird to feel the way you do. Maybe find some one so you two can be lonely together<3 ? Easier said than done. Sorry kid :(

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    • hiiiiiiiiiii
      10 years ago

      Well thanks anyway:/ yes, I am introverted, but I can sometimes fool people and some will think I'm partially extrovert. I am an INFJ making me highly critical of myself, and others around me. So I know before I even talk to someone whether or not they r right for me. I do have a very good friend(been friends since I was 9), but since she is an extrovert, she has so many more people to talk to. I always feel the pressure of making more friends.

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      • davesumba
        10 years ago

        I am extremely quiet, but I LOVE talking, I just don't know what to say. But I found people that share common interests with me and we have loads to talk about.
        So try to find people who share your interests, a good way to do that is to join a club or a sports team.

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        • hiiiiiiiiiii
          10 years ago

          Lol won't catch me on any sports team unfortunately....I have absolutely no competitiveness in my body! And I have found that I am better paired with people of different interests with alike moral codes.

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  • LOUi_CUDi
    10 years ago

    High school= cliques,... Just talk to someone or try to connect with one who has many friends and is REALLY NICE; friendly, so they can be kind to you and introduce you to other students. Don't, try so hard to be friends, a friendship just comes natural by having a connection with that other. However, you said that no one bothers to talk to you so just accept that you HAVE TO BE THE FIRST ONE TO TALK TO THEM. At first it is awkward but once find something in common, you will find that connection.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    I've got Day shar voo.

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