Is it normal that i can't move on?

Ok so my only true love died last August and it's been hell for me. And i can't hardely get by, it's getting slightly better but no one close to me cares about this. My lover (Let's refer to him as S) S was the best thing to happen to me that I could even imagine, and on august 18th he died of Leukemia and left me to cope. I can't really move on it's been nearly a year but it still feels like I'm there watching the life leave him. Is it normal that I can't (maybe, won't) move on? And is it normal that i don't believe (maybe, want) to get a new lover, that I don't want to fall in love again?

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  • ggeineg

    Im so sorry for your loss :( but It's very normal that you feel this way. I suggest finding someone to talk to about it like a therapist or close friend. Just know that it will get better okay, time heals everything. I'm not saying you will end up forgetting your loved one but with time you will be able to deal and move on. Their presence in your life will most likely stick with you forever but learn to look back on the chance you had to meet someone so wonderful and remember the things they taught you and your memories. It is gunna be okay. Goodluck and I hope all the best

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  • Mel

    Of course how youre feeling is normal. I find it strange that no one you know cares how you feel though. I suggest seeing a therapist to talk to (since it seems you cant talk to your family) & they will help you with the grieving process. Its going to take a while for you to cope & get back to a "normal" life. For example...thinking about future relationships, and that is totally expected.

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  • FocoUS

    It's okay to love him still. I haven't lost a lover but my cousin who was just a year younger than me died. I was crushed. When you lose some one you love, it's not something that you will ever get over. But I do believe that this doesn't mean you can't function with your life.

    Going back to living your life will be difficult. There's no shame asking for help. You might want to go to a therapist. Or talk to his family. Talking to people that loved him as well will make you feel better.

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  • Lawson926

    First,I'm sorry for your loss. I won't even try to I imagine how you must feel. It's never easy to get over someone you love.

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  • Caryopteris

    I think you must feel like you have been robbed, and it could take a while to process this and have an interest in being interested in anything or anybody else, if you know what I mean.

    I don't have any advice really, other than to say that how you cope and how long it takes is up to you and nobody can rush you. When you are ready for the next chapter, it will happen.

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  • Wreckedems

    My condolences

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  • MissClaire

    It's okay to still love this person, and love someone else too .... maybe in a different way .... love is not/should not be restricted in my opinion :) ** don't read this into me saying cheating is alright, I'm just saying that opening your heart up is not always a bad thing**

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  • how sad for everyone his family included. time may help you, grief counselling may help you. good luck

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  • You are mourning him,thats not to good.It causes melahcholy and is very hard to get over.Sometimes in life you just gotta leave the bad things behind.Remember the good times you guys had and how much you loved eachother,hes right there with you,right now,as you read this.

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  • emilydoll

    Wow.

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