Is it normal that i can't leave it like that?

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So I have this guy friend/best friend. And basically, we're kinda friends with benefits. I kinda like, him but I don't know. He likes me too, but I'm starting to doubt. But there's something going on between us, as others would say. Just a month ago, we kinda acted like we're together, but we go to different schools. And now, on the internet, (Facebook), he posted a picture of some other girl. It made me feel like I can't trust him. And people already have warned me about him. But you have no idea how he makes me feel. He's not one of those players and stuff, he's better than that. But next thing you know, the girl and him are like tagging eachother in other posts and stuff. I know I shouldn't be worried, but after that, my other friend caught him out with the same girl all snuggly. Then also, he posted another picture of her, but it was a full body back view and it was nighttime. I haven't texted him in a while. I have a feeling he doesnt like me anymore.. even as a friend. Basically, I just can't leave it at that. For me, I need that ending. I don't care if it's a bad one. I can't have him just fade away. I NEED that ending. I need a REASON to stop talking to him.
So is it normal that he does that to me, AND that I NEED that ending between us ?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    If it was a friends with benefits thing, he has no obligation to be faithful... Still, you should talk to him about it

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  • ariannel
    12 years ago

    You want closure. I can get that. Get that closure from him and move on. Sounds like he already has.

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  • Mcohen335
    12 years ago

    Omg I am in a very similar situation. But with me we go to the same school and I am like in love with this guy. We go on and off with the friends with benefit thing. It is pure torched though for me like I like him soooooo much and I need him and it kills me that we are only friends with benefits. But I rather have that then not have anything. And like you I must have an ending. I know that if I don't date him I will never be able to get over him. I don't really care if it's like a month relationship, I need him. My advice to you is text him and ask him what's up with y'all, like where you stand with him. It may seem risky and nervracking but at least this way you will know, and who knows maybe you'll end up together. Don't listen to these negative people they don't really understand in my opinion. I wish you the best of luck

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      This is was the best of help <3 Thank you so much, unlike the other people. Thing is, I want to be at least friends with him; I don't want to be with him, but he's not even being my FRIEND.

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  • klunky
    12 years ago

    if you were only fwb then he's free to move on.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    just meet someone else or be alone, i dont get it

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    That's the problem with females - they always want to talk it out! Men just move on and close the lid on that box.

    Just accept that and let him go. You're able to see the facts with your own eyes.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      It's the same thing as having a best friend for a few years and all of a sudden they find someone new and stop talking to you. You're not just gona leave it like that, I think you'd like to know why..

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Nah! I've had it happen to me over the years and I don't pursue them. I regard it as their loss so I'm happy to let them go. You just make yourself inferior to them if you chase after them. I understand that you deserve any explanation but some people are just selfish so pretend you don't care and that means you haven't been hurt - even if you have.

        He's just moved on and found a new toy. Once he's bored he may well come back - providing there's been no major disagreement. This is what he seems to be avoiding!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          I actually thought your first comment was sort of rude, but this one means alot. I appreciate your concerns. Thanks! (:

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          • joybird
            12 years ago

            I apologise for that it was not intended - maybe just a bit too blunt for reading.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              12 years ago

              No worries!

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  • Dazzie
    12 years ago

    You don't need to give him a reason if you want to stop talking to him. You want to stop talking to him than do so. Be honest and tell him. It sounds like he's just a little player, get someone better, he doesn't sound worth your time.

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  • nowimsureimsane
    12 years ago

    Your a little girl you dont know shit about life and youve already started it out being cold...theres really no hope for you...youll be 50 and still not care so i have nothing to say you wont be worth it.i say that from experience.from 16 to 60 so cold have fun with that.youll never know what love is.

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