Is it normal that i can't imagine a physical relationship with a guy?

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I've always labelled myself as being bisexual, but some recent events have me questioning it.

I had my first 'real' kiss with a guy a couple of days ago.(I'm 18, I know it's a bit pathetic, but I've always pushed away romantic interests. I've never felt ready until now.)

And right after kissing this guy, I had never felt more gay than in that moment than in my entire life.

I felt like a horrible human being. This guy is good looking, kind, and has been flirting it up for the past month, only for me to kiss him and for me to realize soon after how unsatisfying it was. I didn't tell him of course, but I know we probably aren't going to be continuing our little fling.

I can imagine being in a physical, and emotional relationship with a girl. I feel so comfortable with them, and physical contact feels natural. But I'm beginning to notice how frigid and a little creeped out I feel when a guy gets too close to me (with romantic motives of course).

Now, a guy has never done anything violent or bad has happen to me in my past, I've just always felt this way.

But I still do find guys attractive (most of my celebrity crushes are male), I just can't imagine being in a relationship with one.

help?

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago | pl

    Honestly you shouldn't feel pressured to like one gender over the other. You like what you like. If you feel more comfortable with girls then be with girls. You're not confined by conventions.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Well, please don't feel bad. When I was young I thought I was bisexual as well but my thoughts and experiences were very much like what you've described. I've come to believe that my same sex celebrity crushes were more about appreciating a particular sort of female beauty that I wished to embody than anything romantic or sexual. You might just be straight like me with a special appreciation for same sex beauty. I've met women that I thought I had a sexual attraction to but if I thought about it too much I would literally become nauseous.

    I recall a particular experience when I was in college. I saw a friend of mine off at our small local airport and before his flight we had some drinks at the airport bar. The bartender was this girl he was friends or acquaintances with so after his flight departed I felt comfortable coming back to the bar for a few drinks. If my memory serves me well I think she may have bought me a drink or two but when I went to leave she gave me this very aggressive kiss on the mouth and her unsolicited phone number. I politely took my leave but by the time I got to my car I felt yucky and fairly certain that I wouldn't be returning there alone much less calling her. It's kinda sad because this was right before Thanksgiving and I'm sure she was lonely but I felt like the experience was too overwhelming and uncomfortable to go any further.

    I hope the experiences of mine that I've shared will be of some help to you. At this point in my life I'm abstinent and somewhat content to work on myself and my shortcomings. More than anything I just feel that the opposite sex feels like home to me despite the fact that I don't feel ready for any romantic entanglements. Regardless, I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Please try to love and appreciate yourself for who you are.
    ((hugs)) ;-)

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    • Narco-Nocturnal
      10 years ago

      Thank you so much! Your reply was very helpful. I suppose I shouldn't be so eager to simply write myself off as a lesbian, just because I'm more comfortable with girls. Sexuality is a fickled thing, and I should probably just take it easy.

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  • uhhyeahidk
    10 years ago

    you could just be a heteroromantic bisexual. sexual attraction and romantic attraction aren't always the same. I hope you find a label you're comfortable with :)

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  • Shelbs
    10 years ago

    Your celebrity crushes are probably mostly male because it's safe for you to like them since nothing will happen.

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    • Narco-Nocturnal
      10 years ago

      that's interesting, I never thought of it like that.

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  • jeebley
    10 years ago

    Gay, straight or bisexual - you don't have to pigeon hole yourself into one of these categories, especially at your age when people are still very much figuring themselves out. It sounds like you prefer physical contact with women, so be it. You can still have crushes on guys. It's all ok. Whatever you like is what you like.

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    • awesomeadvice88
      10 years ago

      I love this guy! Jeebley your are a great influence on us all, I wish there were more jeebleys in the world!

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      • jeebley
        10 years ago

        Lol...thanks! But I don't know if the whisky production could keep up!

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        • awesomeadvice88
          10 years ago

          Haha I think they could, someone just needs to gee them up a bit!;)

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    You need to give yourself to a guy and see what happens. You will love it I bet.

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  • Shnaz
    10 years ago

    You are a lesbian.

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  • suky
    10 years ago

    I can't see why you're bothered. Just f*** who you like, when you like, when they like. It can change from month to month. It's your life.

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  • OnMyWayToPigfarts
    10 years ago

    This may be helpful for you, if not it's still pretty interesting. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xXAoG8vAyzI

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  • SuperBenzid
    10 years ago

    I got to say that feeling grossed out by a single kiss is not a reason to believe you are gay. You might have other good reasons but that is not one. I think if you go on a few dates with someone of either gender then you will start to know what you like and dislike more.

    I'd say relax about it, give it time and you will know if you are bisexual or homosexual.

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    Not good you'll give yourself hemmeroids one day

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Always try sucking a cock no matter what the question is or what it is about. Get a guy with a nice cut cock and suck him off and swallow his juice. That will get you going every time. Maybe he will suck you off too.

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    • DiamondGirl
      10 years ago

      That sounds good. Sorry I like men. 2 Lesbos gross.

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    • Energy
      10 years ago

      Suck me off.

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      • peterr
        10 years ago

        Only cut cocks.

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        • Energy
          10 years ago

          It is cut. I hate uncircumcised. *pukes*

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