Is it normal that i can't have sex

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I was raped 2 years ago by a guy I was dating. Now I am with a guy who loves me and who I love back. This man treats me like gold, but I can't have sex with him. Each time he tries to insert himself no matter how wet I am, I feel like I am being ripped open again.

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Based on 12 votes (11 yes)
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  • MR.mr
    6 years ago

    your body is still reacting to the trauma, i have 2 recomendations.

    1 lots and lots of foreplay to help you relax.

    2 talk to a professional

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    • JonathanOo
      6 years ago

      I agree. Patience and therapy. Counseling really does help get past these obstacles

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        6 years ago

        Thank you so much :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thank you so much for this advice :)

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  • TheKidd98
    6 years ago

    If this is true.. Then tell him what happened and that you're just not ready , if he loves you he should understand

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      "If this is true"? I am new here so I am going to assume that people lie about being assaulted? I can assure you it is very much true. Mentally I am ready, I want to do it, but physically my body won't allow me to. Thank you for your feedback :)

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      • MR.mr
        6 years ago

        sorry, there are a lot of trolls on this site who post all kinds of fake stories regularly.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          That is terrible! I can't imagine why someone would lie like that smh thank you for telling me! I was confused :)

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  • Murun
    6 years ago

    Lots of orgasms from oral sex (assuming you trust his tongue) should help you trust his penis eventually.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thank you so much :)

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      • TheMightyOz
        6 years ago

        I wish you the best of luck. I cannot have sex either because I can't get it up from medical complications. At least there is hope for you.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    you can have sex because you did have sex lets clear that up, second your only complaint is pain. well thats because you need more mileage. not because you got raped. maybe if your rapist had put more miles on it you wouldn't have this pain today. the only other pain you might have is imaginary pain making you a crazy nut job because all the other millions of rape victims dont have this imaginary pain. So what you do next is up to you. You are in control. If you dont want the job that your choice as well. You got no pity here.

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  • Disappointmentaf
    6 years ago

    I can't have sex because I've been repressing my sexuality always. Even if I want it I cannot.

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  • Meezy
    6 years ago

    Get professional help otherwise you'll lose him. You'd lose me too.

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