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I'm in a relationship with a girl we tried sex for 3 times and she is not virgin anymore but, we can't have a complete sex she is so tight and feels it painful to insert my thing in her so we do have sex like she is still virgin.
is it normal?and is there any advice?
Lots and lots of foreplay. Go down on her while finger fucking for a while to loosen her up. Use a waterbased lubricant to help things go smoothly and reduce her pain. Perhaps invest in some vibrators or dildos that are sequentially smaller than you and start with the smallest one and gradually work your way up to you. Most importantly take it slow. Some women just need some time with a lot of foreplay to get aroused enough to enjoy penetrative sex.
Wow! What messed up grammar. Judging by the way you wrote this I would imaging that you're too young to have sexual intercourse any way. Try focusing on you English and grammar skills in school and stop this whole sex thing until you reach puberty.
You try to insert your "thing"? Are you twelve or something?
Like Ummitsme says, it sounds like your rushing things. Some women can need up to fifteen minutes of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm from a cold start. If a woman has an orgasm before insertion is attempted, her natural lubrication should make penetration easy.
In any case, a considerate guy will make sure the woman he's with comes at least once before penetration. He'll focus on her at the start, and forget about what he wants for a few minutes. This isn't entirely selfless. A woman who's already had at least one orgasm is very likely to want to return the favor.
Can she reach orgasm by what you're doing? Many women are so sexually inhibited that they find it difficult to reach orgasm, or they don't know how to get there. Setting can also make it difficult. If you're trying for quick screws in locations she's not totally comfortable in, it's possible she won't be able to focus on what you two are doing.
Forget about the idea that "real sex" is getting your dick in her vagina. Shift your attitude to understanding that good sex is about you two giving each other sexual pleasure. Sometimes, that will involve having your penis in her vagina, sometimes it won't.