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Ok so a few week ago me and my boyfriend of six months broke up. We broke up after he saw my self-harm scares and he said "I don't want to date an unstable freak who cuts themself." In my mind I hate him for how he hurt me by doing that but in my heart I can't bring myself to hate him. I still love him and miss him. Is it normal that I can't hate him over this?
Your bf choice of words were alittle mean and unnecessary, but understandable. That will scare anyone. Please get help, or at the very least talk to someone. Before you make someone really worry :(
I say... don't worry about whether or not you love or hate him.
instead, concentrate on loving yourself. That's going to matter more.
If your reasons for self harming are genuine then you wouldn't shout about it. People like you put the marks there for a cry for attention and you've made it quite clear that you qualify. If you want attention, seek it in a healthier way. You don't hate him deep down, probably because you know that he hasn't insulted the real you. The person who self harms is not really who you are and that's why you can forgive him.
Hate hurts no one but oneself. Him saying those things is not normal. But not hating someone is definitely normal, and healthy. Just as long as you don't try to be with him. He sounds like an ass.
You don't need someone like that. I'm not even saying this to try and make you feel better. You really don't.
I believe it was just an excuse to get you gone without any shit. As mentioned above, he had to have known about them from almost from the beginning. But you are better off without the asshole. You don't need to hate him, but you certainly need to keep your distance and not allow the cruel bastard to hurt you again.
I'm sorry I know you're hurting right now but you gotta let go.
Keep your chin up soldier
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