Is it normal that i can't get too close with anyone?

85% Normal
10 Comments

A little background info: I'm 21 years old, a commuting college student, and I don't think I'm particularly close to anyone except for 2 girls and my other guy friend. I do have friends, but I feel like my shyness and social anxiety inhibits me from making good friends as opposed to acquaintances. I wasn't really this way in high school though, which makes me dislike college even more.

Are you guys also the same way and is this something I should be very worried about?

Voting Results
85% Normal
Based on 39 votes (33 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 10 )
  • ChemGirl
    11 years ago

    People who are "close" to a lot of people frequently aren't close to anyone at all. Three good friends sounds perfect to me.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • amend64girl
    11 years ago

    Step out of your box. When you meet someone in class, ask them if they want to get coffee afterwards to go over material. Then make sure to follow up with that person if you like them to make more plans.

    Some people you will automatically connect with, others will take time. But honestly, college is the best place to meet people, even if you commute. Find a job on campus! Or join clubs or go to meetings or attend speakers. It make take you some time to adjust but you will learn that most people are cool and at the very least talk to you. It'll help you figure out how to best approach new people and you'll find that making new friends isn't anxiety producing.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • emazingly
      11 years ago

      Thanks! I'm a part of 2 cultural clubs and a religious association, and I feel like we do have meetings and bonding moments which I attend, but I feel like I haven't really gotten close to anyone. However, it seems like they all connected with at least a subgroup quickly, so I think I just need to keep doing what I'm doing. Thanks for the suggestions!

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
    • debutaunter
      11 years ago

      I liked your post, makes everything feel more hopeful.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Just move in a little closer.

    Start off by sharing the same bench then keep inching towards them till they notice you and Kablaam either they will pull away or they will also move closer.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • 0404
    11 years ago

    Its just change. Its normal :)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • debutaunter
    11 years ago

    hey, its strange, I feel the exact same way and just posted something similar.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • emazingly
      11 years ago

      Really? It's good to know we're not alone in this then :) and things will improve hopefully! Are you shy as well?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Stay out of my bubble.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • robbieforgotpw
      11 years ago

      Are you the bubble bird?
      *leaves a present inside the bubble**

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0