Is it normal that i can't get over my break up?

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Recently, my girlfriend broke up with me. We were so happy and everything was perfect, then one day, she said we need to take a 'break'. I knew that wasnt good. So I complied and we went on this 'break' that was supposed to last from the second week of July to the first week of August. Half way through the break, she said she misses me and she doesnt deserve me. Then the day after that, she told me it wasn't going to work and she broke up with me. Her reasoning is that she has to make herself happy and doesnt have time to worry about making other people happy, then recently told me after a fight, that I was pretty much too clingy, even though I had asked if I was being clingy and she said no. I was so confused and sad because I didnt do anything wrong and I thought everything was great. Its been almost a month and I'm still mourning and sad and depressed every day thinking about her. Is it normal that It's taking me so long to get over this? I was so in love with her, and she broke me.

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  • Inuyasha72
    10 years ago

    Holy shit, I thought I was reading my own post there for a minute.

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  • 8-Evil-Waffles
    10 years ago

    Time is your friend in this. Eventually she'll be nothing but a memory like that time you got arrested at dairy queen for public indecency.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    It will get better. Nothing lasts forever, whether it be relationships or the pain of them ending. You may eventually look back on this as a positive experience even if that sounds impossible now. Allow yourself to feel the pain, because there's no shame in it. Accept the pain and allow yourself to process it and grieve over the death of your relationship. If it helps to have distractions, have them. Don't allow yourself to become reclusive, so make yourself go outside every day, preferably with friends, even if you really don't want to.

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    • Jeaneathean
      10 years ago

      Wise words and advice.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    A couple of things from someone who has had 2 wives leave after over 10 years together because I wouldn't live ashore, even though they knew who I was from the get go, it hurts for quite a while.
    First, the more miserable you appear to be, the happier and less interested in you she will be. Note I said appear. So get out there and date, party and have fun; it will make her miserable.
    Have you ever noticed how much more female attention you get when you have a girl on your arm? How women are more attracted to guys who have girls?
    Take that to heart and it'll help heal yours.
    It takes time, as mentioned above, but the hurt takes much, much longer to go away if you let it get you down.
    Lastly, do not ever even think of getting back together with this girl. She will not ever be the person she was before the break up and your relationship will never be great again. She will just break your heart again or your fear that she will, will destroy your relationship.

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  • ThousandPoundsOfGanja
    10 years ago

    Bruh, sometimes with the way I get attached to chicks and all the shit they do and all the shit they want, sometimes I wish I was gay. It would be so much easier, all you got to do to be gay is hang out and do dude stuff.

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  • lala85
    10 years ago

    This long? ? ? According to your story it's been like three weeks. Have some patience.

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    It seems everyone goes through this, myself included in the exact situation with the exact things, or similar things said. Its normal and depending on how long you were together, it could very well take muuuuch longer than one month. But just like they always say, time is the key. Just live on one day at a time and eventually, all those pains will be gone and you'll just realize it one day. I know because I've been through it like many.

    Its a shame because some people feel the need to throw insults when breaking up and that is just childish unless they are accurate.

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  • AnonJoe
    10 years ago

    I don't mean to kick you while you are down, but it sounds like she cheated on you and felt guilty.

    Time will heal it dude. Just relax and understand that you felt one way, and she felt differently about it.

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  • irishsteel
    10 years ago

    sorry OP completely irrelevant

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    I'm still mourning after 4 years :-(

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  • Jeaneathean
    10 years ago

    Sorry: I have no advice, but would like to say I sympathise and hope you get over her soon.

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    From the start she probably never wanted this to be a long-term thing. Complete BS excuse because your "time had expired".

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