Is it normal that i can't forgive my parents after 9 months?

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It has been 9 months since my parents betrayed me, and I still cannot forgive them. I met an amazing person recently, who lost his father when he was 12. He would give everything to have his father back and to him family/parents are everything. A really sweet guy and I admire him.

I wish I could be more like him, but at the same time I cannot get over the betrayal. I am a stubborn person :(

Basically, what happened with my parents was that during the breakdown of my long term relationship, they took my ex's side, told him how he was better than me, how I never deserved him, and how I must have found someone else because I wanted out of the relationship.

On top of that, they never properly apologised (they gave me a sorry not sorry kind of apology) but have reached out to me a fair few times trying to repair the relationship ...

How do I get over my stubbornness? How do I forgive them for deeply hurting and betraying me?

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Did you find someone else? Or did you simply just want out of the relationship?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He didn't make me happy and I wanted out. No, I did not and still haven't found someone else...

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      • mountain-man82
        9 years ago

        Then your family was definitely in the wrong, but its not good to hold onto that anger forever. It eats away at you over time. Just take some time for yourself and then try to start to forgive them a little bit at a time.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I can't see any profit for your continuing to be angry, for you or them. It sounds like they were terrible to you, but how is being angry with them helping? Does it make you feel better?

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  • Thatguy777
    9 years ago

    Quit acting like a child.

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  • shaggy145
    9 years ago

    To be honest I was in a similar situation. Your parents love is a great thing to have, but you don't need it. All I have to say is that Yes, it's normal but love fades and soon new love will find a into your heart I'm sorry this has happened but these are the kinds of things that make you stronger. I hope you find this to be helpful to you.

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  • charli.m
    9 years ago

    Can't say I blame you for being hurt and angry. What they did was awful.

    I think you need to give yourself time. It's all well and good that they're reaching out, but you have every reason to not be ready to forgive and move on. It seems like you want to, though. I hope you can get to that point without feeling more hurt or confused by your emotions.

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