Is it normal that i can't forget someone who rejected me?

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last year I had so many guys approaching me. I had a boyfriend who I didn't value enough. I rejected him and chose a new boyfriend I thought would be a good partner for my entire life. we wanted to get married, but I felt something was wrong all the time. I didn't give up being optimistic about our relationship but I didn't feel the same from his side. I know we prbably didn't love each other enough, I know both of us can find new love. But it hurts so much...
we meet occasionally.. I'm praying to God to get us back together and make us love each other with all our hearts... I can't accept anyone else... I hate myself I'm not the one he wants...

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  • MIND-CONTROLLED!?!?!
    8 years ago

    need more details.

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    • nisa
      8 years ago

      Well, details.. it was difficult for me to forget a man I was together previously with.. (lemme call him just “M”) I was comparing them all the time and I couldn’t get the same attention from the second one.. (I’ll call him “E”)
      Don’t judge me that I am not serious.. believe me I am. So I loved the first one (“M”) with all my heart, in fact he was my first love. But he never supported me when I wanted to do something new, when I tried to do what’s in my mind. He wouldn’t be a partner, he’d be just one of the husbands who lubberly control their wives. I can see such men everywhere in my country.
      The second one (“E”) is a type of person who continuously grows up. Whose thoughts are deep and I know he wants to see a strong woman next to him. I know I can be strong provided I feel I’m loved. Just the moment I met him was the wrong one. I was fighting with my feelings to another man and it required time.
      So now I hope to get him back again or someday soon meet someone who’d love me like (“M”) and support me like (“E”).

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Maybe you have a fear of intimacy with the way you're holding a torch for someone who doesn't want you? I'm sorry, but he's your ex for a reason. God ain't Santa Claus; if this guy's not into you all the praying in the world won't change his free will. I know it's painful, but you must accept that it's over, and try to move on with your life. The only way out of this mess is through it, and when it's over you'll be better for it.

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    • nisa
      8 years ago

      I pray to God to let me forget him if we r not supposed to be. It's something I can never explain to myself why I'm still keeping him in my mind.. anything happens for reason as u said. Thanks for being concerned about it.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        You're welcome. Yeah, honestly I would continue to ask God to help you free yourself from this obsession in your prayers. Of course God has given you free will just like every other person on the planet. So if I were you I would try to challenge those obsessive thoughts about this guy whenever they come up in your mind. Also don't listen to sad romantic music, try to find things to occupy your thoughts and time that aren't about guys or dating.

        In closing I just want to say it's best to not go looking for a new relationship until you're over the previous one. Give yourself time to heal.

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        • nisa
          8 years ago

          well, we'll live, we'll see...

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          • The_Creep_is_back
            8 years ago

            ....... and remember. Your sense that something was wrong would have continued throughout your entire married life. The right decision is hard sometimes. Have faith that your heart will heal.

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