Is it normal that i can't find a true friend?

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I don't have true friends. Simple as that. I'm often lonely because I feel like there's no one who loves me for who I am. There is no one who actually cares about my feelings and thoughts. I hang out with my friends and we have fun together, make jokes and everything but at the end of the day it the same. There is no one who will call me late in the night just to talk with me, there is no one who will invite me to a party or shopping. I'm just a temporary company and I'm seriously thinking of leaving this town. I don't know if that would help me because I'm starting to feel like everybody is selfish and evil. I know it's not true but somehow I see it that way. I need somebody to prove me that I'm wrong.

I don't think I'm a bad person, actually I think I'm a better person than most of them but still...
Is it normal that throughout my life I hadn't been able to make a long term friendship? I tried to see it through, first I thought that the problem was in me... but it's not, you may say I'm a bit ridged but I'm awesome, I really am in every way. What's the matter then? What do you think?

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    You're right. It's not you. It's them. They're the ones who have the problem, and I have the same problem as you. I feel like people don't see me as a friend to keep. Even though I might have the qualities that a true friend could have, I always feel like I'm being thrown away. I feel as though I'm everyones last call, last choice, last suggestion, last thought, last EVERYTHING! I hate it!

    The only time I do get a phone call from someone late at night, is not even to talk about anything meaningful, but some loser guy who just wants to talk about sex all the time!

    I want a real friend. I want someone who will actually talk so I can listen, and then is actually willing to listen as I talk. I want someone who will think of me as their first choice to call, and they'll be my first choice too. Seriously, I think it would be so cool If I met someone like you in person, because I would totally be your friend.

    Maybe you could try joining a club or something. I might have not had the best of luck myself, but I have faith that you do.

    Sorry I couldn't help much, I just saw this and had to let you know that I totally relate.

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    • waterfalls02
      13 years ago

      thanks for your comment... it actually made me feel better upon finding out that someone too in the world shares the same feeling... it's so sad that we can't find a true friend who really cares... I wish I had you as a friend, I think you would be the "prove me that I'm wrong" someone... anyway, thanks for the advice...

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  • lun
    13 years ago

    that happened to me i had a friend that was my friend since first grade but she started to be kind of more serious and more unfun

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  • ABC123__
    4 years ago

    I was wondering about the same. I'm in the same boat as you. Friendless and lonely. I recently finished my high school and thought that even though high school is getting over but the friendships will always remain. Turned out it was all crap. (Kindly excuse my language).
    Well, I feel a little bad but books have my back. Books make me feel more comfortable so as of now they're my best friends. Waiting for uni to start, hoping to meet some better people who might be less selfish and self centred.
    I never find people with same interests as me so it becomes difficult for me too.
    Even though some people claim to be "nerds", "geeks" and "book lovers" but after sometime it's really clear that they aren't what they claim to be so yeah. Well, it was nice read everybody else's life stories. Tbh, it motivated me to write about mine. Thank you!

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  • imacomputer
    13 years ago

    I've been trying to figure out a very specific way to post a story and/or poll about this same subject.

    I'm in the same boat as you.

    I used to have a lot of friends but now I feel that they were really just all ACQUAINTANCES, which we all know makes a HUGH difference.
    I'm nice and friendly and outgoing, but I feel like I don't really fit into any group of my friends.
    It feels like they all have "their own thing going,"and I'm just there either because I'm just nice and they like that, or they actually might want something from me in the future.
    I think for me, the reason why I feel "left out" a little, is because I never really stick around any one group for too long. I usually get tired of the group's collective bullshit, or I move on to something different, only to come back years later and feel left out AGIAN!

    IDK anything anymore.

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    It's hard to meat decent people these days. My best friend at the moment is my ex!

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