Is it normal that i can't feel for people?

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For example I find it really difficult to "be nice", when someome falls and get hurt. A normal people would ask if they were ok, but i would probably say something like "pull yourself together". I simply don't know how to sympathize with people. I hate comforting people and i almost never get a bad conscience. When someone is sad i usually just tell them what i logical instead of patting them on their shoulder and saying that it will be "ok". Usually i don't care about their heartaches.
I also don't believe in morals, i know it's very selfish, but i believe that everything anyone does is for themself in some way.
I quite enjoy when it goes badly for other people and right for myself. I'm also a bit of a sadist.
Now you might think that people must hate me, but that's not true, people respect me and i do have friends. I'm pretty good at acting and copying what i see other people do and how they react in emotional situations, so no one knows the way i really am.
So my question is really, am i just a very honest person, or weird.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    To be honest, the logical thing to do would have been to read the directions underneath the text box where you typed this story that clearly stated that this question might have been asked before and that you should search it before asking.

    And this question has been asked before. At least four or five times a week. You honestly think that this is special in the world of humanity? People kill each other all of the time, steal from each other, discriminate against each other, CEOs make decisions that have put millions out of jobs and they still sleep soundly at night and you wonder if you're somehow special for not having feelings for others? If anything, you're part of the majority.

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    • CosmicSlop
      11 years ago

      Damn that's the truth.

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    • YumInsanity
      11 years ago

      Nowhere in the post did he say he thought he was special

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        Sorry if I offended you, but he asked if it was normal and my point was that, with a little brainpower, anybody could see that a lack of concern for one's fellow man isn't special in the world of humanity. It's very common.

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        • YumInsanity
          11 years ago

          No it isn't, this type of behaviour is relatively unusual, the vast majority of people will quickly rush to someone's aid if they are in distress, even if they don't know them, it's a natural human instinct, which is evident if you've ever seen how people react to an accident or someone getting hurt. The examples of cruel behaviour you gave (corporate negligence, murder, stealing) are either motivated crimes for personal gain or in the case of most murders, an emotional impulse, none of which bear any relation to the poster. He is talking about his own pathological lack of empathy, sadism and disbelief in morals and altruistic actions which, if true, isn't normal or common. People on this site get instantly pissed off whenever they see a post about psychopathy or misanthropy and seek to trivialise and demean the posters instead of saying something useful or individual to the post. I understand where you're coming from, but the person who wrote that isn't a homogenous glob of everyone who's ever written a post like that on this site, he's just a teenager wondering why he doesn't work like he's supposed to

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          • NeuroNeptunian
            11 years ago

            I am very well aware of violence/empathy in our current society, but historically violence and lack of empathy for others has been (and for many countries, still is) the natural course of things. Globalization and education seems to have gifted humanity with a sense of empathy that we have never had before, but that does not mean that the vast majority of people, period, have completely integrated into the ideal of empathy for others that our society has self-imposed on itself.

            Cooperation is nothing new, it is, in fact, proven to be the best method of survival and therefore will be adhered to, but that does not necessarily prove that the vast majority of individuals in OUR society give a legitimate fuck about each other. That just proves that we know how to survive.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      Logical? >;)
      Mwahaha. I knew I'd catch you saying it eventually in that manner!

      But in all seriousness, good comment. Thumbs up to you.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        Thought it'd be funny since he said he responded to his friends problems by wanting to tell his friends "what I logical".

        Reading is what he ought to logical. He seriously slayed the grammar dragon with this post.

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          Lol. Agreed.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    its normal, i feel the same.

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  • tiggerandpooh2012
    11 years ago

    It may be a common thing, but it is not a good thing. I would strive to maybe see if perhaps there is an underlying mental health issue or perhaps some past experiences that have made you like this. People who are uncomfortable with emotion usually have a reason why because emotion is such a big part of life.

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  • JBN
    11 years ago

    I can answer most INN questions with this answer:

    If you do not have to make your own living, if you don't have a rigorous stressful day and instead can lay on your lazy ass all day long with no bills or responsibilities, then YES it is normal to feel lonely, to feel depressed, to not have many friends, to be tired, self centered, and unhappy.

    There, just saved a lot of someone else's money on sending you to therapy :)

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    I think my OTHER responses to this question have always been that maturity brings empathy.

    Poor thing, you didn't know.

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