Is it normal that i can't fall in love?

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So, I had my first serious relationship with a boy (I'm a girl). I was in love, and I know he loved me. He was respectful and amazing. We had sex. Two months after that, it ended. Since then, I find I can't let anyone get close to me and I swiftly lose interest in any potential lover. When I kissed him, it felt so right. Like, I wasn't worried about making mistakes. I just loved it. It felt passionate and fantastic. But, everyone person I've kissed since then, it's felt really wrong. And I haven't liked anyone. Shortly after the break-up, I fell in love again. It turns out the boy I loved was only leading me on for sex. I was really hurt and ashamed when he played a joke on me and publicly humiliated me. Especially since then, I haven't been able to feel love. Where I used to want to kiss for hours, now I find it gross and wanting it to end. Is this normal?

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  • BfingIToucher
    12 years ago

    I think this just shows how misleading physical attraction can be. We often mistake it for love. But true love (or at least the love for which you should strive) is mutual and doesn't leave us bruised and embarrassed. I agree with joybird above. Take a break -- give yourself time to heal. Don't try to force it. You sound young. Friendship + passion is what you should be looking for. But as long as your ex holds this much of your heart, you will have a hard time seeing it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Yeah, yeah I know. It's been 6 months since the relationship healed. Now, I just want to love and be loved for who I am. It's not that I miss my ex... I just miss the feeling of wanting to be with somebody and wanting to see someone.

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  • CinnamonToast
    12 years ago

    It's normal, tragic, and hopefully temporary. Give it some time; you'll go back to normal in... oh, in your own good time, I guess. Maybe tomorrow, maybe ten years from now.

    You've had some bad luck and been treated really poorly. This is just your reaction to that, and it sucks for the nice guys out there that don't have a chance with you because of it, but you need the time you need.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    You're probably still getting over the break up. I think you should take a little break from the dating scene for a while, and then love will probably come unexpectedly when you're not even looking for it.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Sounds like you need to give these 'boys' a wide berth for a while until you get over your ex's behaviour. They are not all jerks but you have your guard up at the moment so they're not worth the effort.

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