Is it normal that i can't cum with my boyfriend?

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Sex has always been very important to me. I kept my virginity until I was 24, and I thought I was marrying him. (Naieve) anyway, he gave me herpes. I have since gotten over that and am okay but at the time I was crushed and spiraled downwards quickly. I lost a lot of self worth and my sexual desires changed. It started to turn me on to be used, I watched a lot of porn. Domination porn, bukakkes, one girl more than one guy ect. I didn't have actual sex, I didn't try to either. It didn't feel right, but I found an online chat room to talk dirty to people and I really pressed the limits there. And the sex I did have wasn't good. No one ever took care of my needs, but I was okay with that. I thought that's what I deserved. I had resigned to be alone and then I met this great guy. I'm totally in love with him. We've been together for more than a year and things are better than they ever have been for me. Except for one small thing, he's never made me cum. I really want him to, and he tries to, what's more it feels great. I just can't seem to get there. Is something wrong with me?

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  • Mr-Myrtos
    9 years ago

    You and several millions more in the world.
    I have a gynecologist friend and he told me half of the women do have problems with that.
    There are many reasons for that.
    Castrating educations out of close mentalities and religious matters.
    Psychological reasons.
    Anxiety.
    Some girls are so concerned about giving and have a good performance and forget about themselves.
    Bad performance from the guy. Normally guy selfishness.
    Pathological reasons. See a Dr.
    There are more married women with children that never came than people thinks. This is a real tragedy!They complain to their doctor but hidded from the husband a full life. They pretend it to have an orgasm for years.
    Most times the fault belongs to the men.

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  • familyguy63
    10 years ago

    Lots of girls have a hard time busting one! Guys have to work at it harder!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It's probably a mixture of you not relaxing enough and worrying about it too much and him just not being good enough. I used to be terrible at sex I'd only think of my own needs and not the girls so I'd just make myself cum. Then after being moaned at I decided to up my game a bit and learnt how to do it. My advice, moan at him and he'll soon step up to the mark lol.

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  • violent-failure
    11 years ago

    after what you have been through i wouldn't be surprised. don't try some crazy shit, and don't cheat on him. let him know that you love him, and want to cum for him, but that you are absolutely ashamed that you can't, and, ask him to do whatever he can to get you to. cunnilingus, fingering, whatever he has to. if he loves you, and i think he does, then he wll be glad to. just the fact that he wants to help you, should help.

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    • Lifestyle69
      11 years ago

      Ya your right. It makes me feel a bit better to hear it like that. I wouldn't cheat on him though. I'm very 'do unto others' plus I just couldn't. Being cheated on by someone you trust is the worst feeling on the planet and things with him are too good.
      Thank you for your response. It's nice to hear people being understanding. Things have been stressful.

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      • violent-failure
        11 years ago

        actually, i may have figured out the problem. after what you've been through, you feel that you don't DESERVE to cum to such a snice guy. i just thought this over in my head for no reason, and it occured to me. got the idea from onision (look 'im up, youtube, helped me through some tough times, and many others). find a way to convince yourself that you DO deserve it, and you may be able to.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    You could be mentally stopping yourself, are you able to cum from masturbation? I'd recommend you go and see a therapist and get to the root of your problems there, because it sounds like you have some issues with sex.

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    • Lifestyle69
      11 years ago

      Ya I can. And 90% of the time I'm thinking about him (my man) while I'm playing. I've thought about therapy before because I've tried everything.
      Thanks for your response.

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