Is it normal that i can't attract a chubby, bearded guy?

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Okay, I am a black female that has a PASSION for full-figured men. I LOVE men with full bellies and facial hair you know, like Jack Black, Ice Cube, Kevin James, Ronnie and Bobby(Lizard Lick Towing),210-340lbs,guys like that (yummy). I asked one out, but got rejected, (he was white and sooo sexy) it hurt, and can't seem to find and/or attract ones I do meet.

I'm in pretty decent shape (175lbs),I'm on the short side (5'3 1/2" - 5'4"),I have a baby-like face, I have the beyonce/ J-lo like curves, I take care of myself (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically), I make it my goal to be as approachable and as nice as I can be, however, I'm having not much luck attracting these types of guys. They seem afraid to ask me out, or when I ask them out they shy away. I won't bite them. I am very much turned on by them- I'm not into six-packs AT ALLL!

So is it normal that I can't attract them? What do I do? Am I being too "aggressive"?

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Try wearing clothes made out of bacon

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    • shuggy-chan
      11 years ago

      Wear a pizza and string cheese bikini

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        Haha saucy....

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        • shuggy-chan
          11 years ago

          For u birdy, I want u with 2 pepperonis and a slice of cheese. I'll eat them off u later

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          • dirtybirdy
            11 years ago

            Growwlllll :p

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            • shuggy-chan
              11 years ago

              Lmao I know. Made my stomach growling too

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    5'3" and 175 lbs passes for decent shape now?

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    • PapzBSlim
      11 years ago

      If you like really "thick" girls, I suppose. My girl is 5'10, 190lbs and is fit. So I am imagining 15lbs less and 7 inches shorter.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        5'10 and 190 lbs doesnt sound that "fit" to me.

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        • PapzBSlim
          11 years ago

          http://www.mybodygallery.com/search.html?height=5+10&weight=190&pant=any&shirt=any&zphoto=Large&new=1

          is that considered too big for your standards? This is not my girl, just one similar that I just googled and put my girls height and weight.

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        • PapzBSlim
          11 years ago

          I assume Kim Kardashian is too "thick" for you huh? You must like the thin gazelle type. Muscle weighs more than fat also. Kim is only 5'2 or 5'3 and has no muscle on her. Add 8 inches in height and some muscle and you will understand what I mean. Sorry though, fit to me isn;t necessarily muscular, lol wrong choice of words.

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      • thinkingaboutit
        11 years ago

        damn. I'm 5'9" and 110 lbs. Haha.

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          Now that sounds fit.

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          • thinkingaboutit
            11 years ago

            I hit the track and gym lol

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        • myboyfriendsbitch
          11 years ago

          Dude... Eat something. I'm 5'5" and i'm freaking out because i only weight 115llbs.

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          • thinkingaboutit
            11 years ago

            The boys, they like it.

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        • PapzBSlim
          11 years ago

          You must be very very skinny. Mind you, my girl has a big butt, big breasts, and is very curvaceous. She has approximately 46in hips. :) :* I consider myself very lucky. She has the same figure as Kim Kardashian just way taller.

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          • thinkingaboutit
            11 years ago

            Nope, just slim.

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  • Francophile22
    11 years ago

    Speaking for myself only (I'm white) I live in a town with a smaller percentage of blacks than the national average, and I wish I could meet black women, and I am bearded and not that heavy, but "pleasantly plump" so to speak.

    So life can be cruel, ya know?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I dont know, I dont mean this in any way to come across as insulting but to be 175 lbs, and 5'4 that just screams to me of being fat.

    I am 5'10 and 175-80 lbs, and in fairly decent shape.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    First sentence - "Okay, I am a black female"

    WHAT THE FUCK DOES THE COLOUR OF YOUR SKIN HAVE TO DO WITH THIS???!?!??! Why mention it??? No one cares!!! Why the fuck are people so obsessed with race and skin colour.

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    • PapzBSlim
      11 years ago

      Lol well said.

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  • EAT_IT
    11 years ago

    I am all the things you ask for.

    One day perhaps we'll meet and you can help me get fed full of burgers :)

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  • CheyChey
    11 years ago

    Maybe you intimidate them by asking them out, they probably see you as too much too handle, the strong forward female thing who knows whats she wants when she sees it works well for some guys and for some it turns them off, leave the approaching to the guys.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Well, maybe you're just not his type? Or you're being to forward? Maybe try hinting to him that you are interested. Flirt a little, show some interest and see if he bites. Some guys feel inferior being the one asked out, or if it's to sudden they mess up and say no even thought later there thinking, why not? Could also be that their married. That type kinda sounds married lol What are you doing to ask them out? Like: lets go to coffee? Or "Here's my number" Heres my number might have impact cause then they're asking you out, and they have the time to sit down and actually think about it

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Oh man, this made me think of a story.

    I was waiting in line in the financial aid office of my school and the guy in front of me was basically composed of fat and ugliness. His clothes looked like shit, too. Now, I generally would not make fun of the appearance of someone who is obviously in or near the same financial situation as I, but this guy was talking to an older fellow about his extremely high standards for women. He was talking about how the bitches are all over him but they just aren't attractive enough, and they are also mental.

    From what I have just read, I am starting to consider the possibility that he was actually talking about real women and not completely delusional.

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    • Goomats
      11 years ago

      Most men make the assumption that ALL women are attracted to the hard-bodied, lean leading-man type. This is not true. Some women find them to actually be a turn off. You describe the man you were talking about as looking nasty, but some women could have a different interpretation than you. My dad thinks ALL the men I have ever dated or had crushes on were composed of "fat and ugliness".

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      • myboyfriendsbitch
        11 years ago

        Well, it is mental women who are attracted to him.

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        • Goomats
          11 years ago

          Who is "him"?

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          • Thatonegirl123
            11 years ago

            :P you don't know? It's Jeff the killer :P don't go to sleep.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        I totally respect that. It is just a shock to me. That man looked nothing like the men described by the OP in the towing, but I digress. Different strokes for different tastes.

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  • Goomats
    11 years ago

    Oh c'mon, you silly people. Quit making all the bad food jokes!!!
    Okay, so I am the same way as you. I love me some BIG men and I have a 365 lbs boyfriend these days. Your problem is asking out guys. Never ask out guys. I used to ask out guys in high school and they always said no. If you want a big man to like you, talk a little slower and look into his eyes when you talk to him. If he's interested, he'll get the signal that you are interested. Sadly, not every man is going to like you that you want to.

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