Is it normal that i can't associate sex with love?

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I'm a 21 year old girl and I have this problem that I can't mix love and sex together. I'm fine having sex with someone who I don't know/ like very much, but if I have actual feelings for someone then the idea of having sex with them seems wrong and disgusting - like I'm degrading them by having sex with them. I also hate having eye contact during sex because it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I had a boyfriend a year ago and it was fine at first because I didn't have any feelings for him, but then once when we were having sex he said 'I love you' and I just burst into tears. I have no idea why I had such an extreme reaction, but it just seems to be getting worse and worse to the point where I don't want to be sexually involved with guys who are even just nice to me. I'm worried that I'll never have a real relationship, and that I'm missing out on a big part of life.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    The fact that you associate romantic sex with being "wrong" and "disgusting" - and the fact that you cannot look someone in the eye while you're having sex...

    it sounds like you may want to consider talking to a sex therapist.

    This doesn't sound emotionally or mentally healthy.

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  • BHolt
    11 years ago

    It's neither 'normal' or 'abnormal' per se, but it is not common. A psychologist may be able to help you overcome it. Or just have an understanding platonic-boyfriend for love and a fuck-buddy for sex.

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  • Tinybird
    7 years ago

    The way that the society has portrayed sex is so stupid. It's a natural, beautiful thing that humans have decidedly turned into a dirty, shameful thing. This is why I loathe humanity.

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