Is it normal that i can't accept that he loves me?

I have a boyfriend and he's absolutely amazing! I love him so much. But I don't understand why he loves ME. Of all the girls he knows, he picks ME. I'm not that pretty, but he calls me beautiful. He tells me he loves me for who I am and that I'm perfect the way I am. But why didn't he pick a hot and sexy blonde chick with a nice tan? Because instead he picks me: the quiet nerd who loves to read and write and likes to make up quotes and sayings. That's not very attractive to guys is it? And I've got pale skin, brown eyes, brown hair. I'm boring. is it normal to not know why he loves ME? Can anyone explain why he might? Because I don't know what he sees in me. What's wrong with me? Why can't I accept that he loves me? Please help. Thank you :)

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  • aussiewolf

    guys go for those blondes for a good time and they go for chicks like you for a relationship.
    i think instead of you picking on the situation, you should just love your partner and enjoy your lives together.

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  • Jsea

    I'm in the same boat with you love and it SUCKS! But if he tells you he loves you and that your perfect, then there is something about you that he simply adores! Even if you can't see it, he does. I know it's a lot easier said then done, but you have to belive him. He loves you for who you are and that's all that matters.

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  • harrypotters

    I can understand why he would choose you lots of those hot blond chicks. You said have bad personaility or are full of themselves and not really fun to be around, dont get me wrong im not saying all of them are like that. But he probally has the most in commong with you and enjoys spending time with you the most. I Also find chicks as you described yourself cute.

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  • heckyea10

    Attraction is a strange thing. For one, don't like those sexy blondes I really like nerdy brunettes like you, who read and write and are educated. Despite popular belief, looks arnt everything for a guy, especially if he's looking for a serious relationship. I wouldn't dwell on this to much... And DON'T continually bring it up to him. It appears needy and fishing for complements.

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  • ccjigsaw

    Not to mention, love is a mysteriouse thing sometimes, we can't always control ourselves. He loves you, it doesn't need to make sense

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  • blndgrl18

    im not ugly, im just average. small, blonde, pale green eyes. nothing exceptional and it makes me wonder why my boyfriend chose me? i mean his exgirlfriends were beautiful. one was actually a stripper. i love to read and write, and he never makes fun of me for it. i think after a certain point, guys look for someone with a good heart and a brain that they can have a life with. what good are looks if there is nothing beneath that.

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  • Caps90

    haha you sound like me! I know one day I will be woundering the exact same thing you are woundering in this post! And I will want someone to say what I am going to say to you! Just accept that he loves you! He probably wounders why you love him; even though it is a no brainer to you! Him loving you is a no brainer to him! You guys are different but somehow I have observed that a sign of true love is when you don't understand why your love chose you to love and he doesn't understand why you chose to love him! You are beautiful, amazing, funny, and all that good stuff! Not because your man says you are, but because YOU ARE YOU! :)

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  • Heava

    I too am having this problem. I guess at the end of the day you need to pull through and succumb to this idea (him loving you) if you are ever going to be happy. That's where I am. I realize that it's an insecurity to feel this way, and that I should simply be grateful. Added to this dilemma is an age difference of about 9 years. I see girls who are younger and have that glow that for me is slightly faded, and will continue to. I don't know what to say to console myself there. I guess you need to have faith in something if it is ever going to grow. That's what I'm learning. Such a hard lesson to swallow in a world built on a steady diet of aesthetics. I guess if I really love him back, I will have to get over myself, and see. That's all you can do in the end.

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  • januarycurse

    you don't know. he likes you for you.

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  • Elliemental

    As much as I HATE this song... Read the lyrics to one direction, you don't know you're beautiful. Brrrr sends a horrible shiver down my spine with its creepy'ness!

    Or maybe he's dating you for a dare (only kidding)

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  • Alysin

    You said he said that he loves you for who you are
    Which sounds like he likes your personality and such
    When you love someone for their personality you eventually start finding them more physically attractive
    That might be how he is

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  • kitzz12345

    why does it matter i mean he loves you isn't that enough just accept the fact that he didn't pick one of the other girls plus depending on the guy a girl is beautiful in there eyes he thinks ur gourgous and your speacial to him just accept that =-)

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  • I understand what you mean... I donèt have a boyfriend but if I did I would wonder the same thing. I am the same as you I have brown hair brown eyes, I love to read and write and make nice quotes and doodle. I am a very creative person. But I would not understand why a guy would like me, I have had boyfriends before and have not understood what was so great about me. There was other girls out there way prettier and way more special. I do not understand it never will. But you just gotta go with it. :)

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  • heather49

    I think you need to know him more.

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