Is it normal that i can never find the right friend?

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From the time i was in kindergarden,i had many friends..some came and left,some stayed..no matter how much i try to be myself,i can never gain popularity among my friends..no matter how much i help them,in return,i feel like as though i'm being used(eg.providing them with notes/help).also,i try my best to blend in with their conversations,and i feel like i'm not being myself anymore when i'm doing that..they talk about korean superstars,boys etc..things that i'm least familiar with,but however,i still try to make conversation..in college,i'm the only one who's from outstation in my group of 6 girls.homesickness is something that evryone experiences,but i feel like these girls do not understand that as they live nearby,drive cars to college,and live with their parents,everything provided for..I on the other hand,find it difficult to cope with the situation here.my parents are my pillars of strength without them,i'd probably commit suicide by now..honestly,they are my true friends!they understand whatver i'm going through..back to the topic:i sometimes feel invisible/neglected when i'm with them..if another girl in the group says something interesting,evryone's eyes are wide open and they listen to it like as though it's a real big thing..when i say the same thing,i just get ignored.all they would do is give me a laugh/smile..why is this happening to me?is it because i'm from outstation?is something wrong with me?i've learnt from my mistakes over the years,but i can never figure out what's really going on?is it really difficult being myself?please do share your opinions..thank you:)

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    This happens to us all.

    In fact it was only when I reunited with my friends from school when I was 4-10 years old that I truly felt at home again with people I still love dearly. As you get older, you learn to tolerate others but you will find a partner and dear friends as you go through life. Just use college to learn and don't worry about that lot. You only have to tolerate them for a short period of your life.

    Good luck.

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    • lala123456789
      12 years ago

      thank you for your comment joybird(79444)

      I know that i only have to tolerate them for a short period of time..but the loneliness just creeps in..i cried twice yesterday,thinking about this..on top of that,my trial examinations are approching,and i'm even stressed thinking about that..my bunch of gals are nice,they are..but i'm seriously ignored/alienated by them..like today,after class,i had a few questions to ask,and so i approached the lecturer..they didnt even wait for me,they just left..as i mentioned in my story,if another girl did the same thing,they would all wait for her!

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Don't feel bad about these people, they are not worth it. You concentrate on your studies. I promise you that this has happened to every single one of us at some time. They are just selfish so you need to do what they are doing - and concentrate on yourself!

        Try not to think too much about it. Find other things to distract you - music, books, tv, pet, anything just to get through this time.

        You will have your own relationships and family in the future and all this won't matter.

        Remember; that which doesn't kill us can only make us stronger.

        You sound like a lovely person, and I'm sure you will be a lovely friend to others who feel the exact same way.

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        • lala123456789
          12 years ago

          thank you,i really appreciate your comments..:)

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    I sometimes felt the same way in school. I have a few good friends in my local area, but I often felt outcast in school. And I have a developmental disorder, and although it's a mild case, I feel underestimated. I have many good friends on the net though. I'm quite popular with people online lol...good luck to you. :)

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