Is it normal that i can feel pain of my friends ?

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Hello, i'm new at this website, and i need some advices.

Well, any time, everywhere, when my friends are with me or not, i feel their pains. It happens, i just don't have any control on it, i really love them and i don't want they have any trouble but, those days have been much different that i thought.

first time was with my GF. i found that was "normal" some kind of true love between her and me, it was nice because, i was really helping her.

But, second time, it was with a friend, i did ask him what kind of pains he got, he was just surprised about my question, but he did tell me it, and it was the same that i felt at the same time.

And, the other times i feel pain from my friends, i didn't need to ask who was suffer, because, i just had the feeling to know who was in pain.

I can't... I really can't tell them this, because, i don't want they feel confused and i don't want to put them the responsability to take care of what they does. I need your help, to know, if this situation, is normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Your an empath and psychic.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    It's normal. It happens to me and I talk to my friends/family about it as a fun subject.

    When I am around pregnant women sometimes my stomach will cramp. Sometimes I will have a pain and think it's not mine; I call up who I suspect is in pain and they admit to being in pain. Sometimes I start feeling sad and think of my best friend and call her and she is depressed or we are thinking about each other at the same time. My boyfriend and I also feel anxiety for each other when we are apart, if one of us has a scare. It could all be coincidences, and sometimes I am wrong, but I truly think people are more connected than most people seem to think.

    It's sympathy, like when you see someone get hurt and you briefly feel the pain of it.

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    • Malreon
      10 years ago

      Soooo... connected... well... maybe its the love from me to them, that connect me to them. Maybe friendship, or maybe something else, but i suspect love/friendship, it start with my GF so, maybe it begin by the love of someone and feel probably more powerful than we can't imagine... uh, wow, so maybe i'm going it right, and i was just afraid by something that's i can just trust and let it live in that way.

      Thanks a lot for your reply, i feel less confused about that, and... i think i'm gonna live like this, if i have the chance to feel them like that... maybe i can really help them, or maybe it just a sad part of the life, and my friends needed someone for them.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    Unlike others I wouldn't say you feeling your friends physical pain is a lie. But it's probably psychosomatic. It's like when you're afraid you have a certain illnes and google the symptoms. You will start having pretty much all of them as you are reading the list.

    So when you were half expecting to be feeling the same pain as your friend it's not that surprising you felt it when he told you.

    And how I understand your story: From there on you didn't even ask what pain your friends were feeling, you just started assuming it had to be the same.

    Now, I'm not an expert but this phenomenon might be a sign of your very own psychological trouble. I'd suggest you talk to a professional or at least someone who knows you.

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    • Malreon
      10 years ago

      Yes... you probably right but... no one in real life know this and, i'm affraid to tell someone, i'm affraid about how he/she will react about that. that's why i wanted some help on the internet :x

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Maybe you are psychically connected.

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    I don't know what to think of all this. It's seems true and yet so unreal. I'm confused.

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    I don't get it, you feel their emotional pains, or physical pains?

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    • Malreon
      10 years ago

      I can feel both :/

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        feel their emotional pains = empathy

        feel their physical pains = a lie

        So what you're saying is that you're a person of normal ability, who lies on occasion. Wow!!!

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        • Malreon
          10 years ago

          I don't see the point to lie on the internet, now i let anyone think, but, if i just posted my problem, is to get some advice or at least, someone who had the same thing... :/

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            You don't see the point of telling a lie on the internet and yet you clearly did, so what you're saying is that you are also stupid?

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            • Malreon
              10 years ago

              that's the kind of thought i'm really affraid in real life... and that's why i was searching for advices in internet.

              but, if its really what you think, i will not keep try to say "no its true" ect, because first, i know its not something you ear in every corner of every city, and second, i don't have time to waste at the moment so, i will just don't care for kids or persons too close for not belive someone in troubles.

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      • Short4Words
        10 years ago

        So if I was a close friend before and pricked my finger, you would feel a pick at the same time, even if its somewhere else?

        Or is it that when you see someone in pain, you can feel their pain emotional or physical?

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        • Malreon
          10 years ago

          Yes, i will absolutly feel the same pain when i saw someone in emotional or physical problems, that's human and i think that's probably normal for anyone, but about my friends, i don't know, i didn't give it a try, i can't tell you if by doing pain from yourself and telling me or don't tell me will works :s

          But, it doesn't work everytime, it happen once every day for sure, i don't have any control on this, and i can't stop it which is embarrassing.

          At the moment, its something that's i like, not because i'm maso or whatever, just because... i can share their pains, and comfort them from what they have :)

          I really wanted to ask if anybody had something like this, i can't ask in real life... i don't want people give me a strange look :(

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